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I need help and I can't find any

NAS82417

I have recently been diagnosed with autism, but I am also suffering from depression, dsylexia and more recently diabities.

I am 6'8 and currently live in a property that I can't even stand-up in to have shower without having to bend over.  Whilst this maybe funny at times, this has I believe been in part to blame for my back going at work, due to years of not having anything the fits properly, having a bed I can stretch out on.  As such, I have been off work for 2 months, and all I have received in that time is a one partial pay and month of SSP, of which I had to spend £300 on my excess for my honda scooter that some tried to steal and cause £600 of damage to the steering column and the AA doing a furster damage to the panels... so possible causing nearly £1000 worth of damge....

Leaving me with £63 to pay my

Rent 525
Council tax 87
Gas and elec 66
Internet 43
water 20
phone 23
to name but a few.

I am stressed to f**k, and have self harmed in the past months slashign my arm to calm myself due to stress at work, I hate my home, it's too small, too expensive and they put my rent up £75 a month.  I can;t stand up, I sick of it, I hate, I am demoralsied, I just don't care anymore, I am tired of fighting all the time, I am tired of worrying, I can't live with other people as I tend to get voilent as I am autistic and I need to do things my way, so that I can cope.  It's not their fault, I just can't cope with living with other people, I hate it.

I need help, I need someone who can help, I need to a council to end the fear of always fearing to be homeless and unsettled.  It is driving me mad....

And why is it so hard to find someone to talk too.

  • I'm sorry to hear things are so difficult for you currently.

    Some good suggestions have been made already - GP, Citizens Advice, Crisis Lines etc.

    More specifically ask your GP to write to the council and explain how your current housing is negatively affecting your health, particularly in relation to the back pain which is preventing you from working. It will be hard to convince the council as they will deem you as being adequately housed. Any letters of support you can get should help your case. Fighting with the council yourself probably won't, as you have already discovered.

    Since your income has reduced it is worth investigating if you might be entitled to any benefits, which would take some of the financial pressure off you. There might be some help towards your rent and council tax. Citizens advice should be able to help you with this and also help you to prioritise who to pay first. https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/work/rights-at-work/sick-pay/getting-money-when-youre-off-work-sick/ They may be able to offer support with your housing application too.

    I hope you manage to find some support to improve your situation.

  • in reply to Peter

    The problem is I rent privately as after my outburst from the last place I had to move in ASAP.  This is why I can't live with people.

    What I need is a council to give me some stability and just general a general drop in constant fear and worrying about the place I live in.

    It's driving me nuts and I just give my brain a rest.

    And because I moved into this place, for whatever reason I had to move in.  Because it was my choice the council are refusing to help.

    When I have no money to pay next month's bills.

    They just don't care.

    I am tired, so very tired of fighting, stressing and worrying

  • A really good post, very thankful and hopeful that you will write many more posts like this one.

  • Hello ,

    I'm sorry to hear that you're having such a difficult time. It’s good that you’ve let us know what’s happening/how you feel. Many people have similar thoughts when coping with so much and we hope you’re okay.  

     If you are unable to cope with the distress or despair, it’s very important to tell someone about your feelings or thoughts of suicide. Call your GP and make an urgent appointment. Your GP can make sure you get appropriate help and support. 

    If it’s outside your GP hours call  111 to reach the NHS 111 service: 

    https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/urgent-and-emergency-care-services/when-to-use-111/ 

     The Samaritans also provide confidential non-judgemental emotional support, 24 hours a day on 116 123, or by email on jo@samaritans.org. 

     MIND have information pages on coping with self harm or suicidal feelings based on the experiences of people who’ve been through it that you may find helpful.  

     If you are very close to doing something to hurt yourself - call 999 now or go to your nearest A&E department. There should be someone there to support you and make sure you get ongoing support. 

     You can find more information here: 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/suicide 

    All the best,

    ChloeMod

  • in reply to Peter

    Was about to advise, GP, Citizens Advice, and I believe there are local crisis teams that may be able to provide immediate care (?), support and point you to not only health care but potentially local community driven projects that link back to the council to further inform them of your needs.
    Mind (.org), Samaritans (currently offering linked-up support with Citizens Advice) and Calm (app/service) may also help.

  • You should speak to your GP. And tbh the council sounds like it’s not properly maintaining your flat and with your money issues to boot worth talking to citizen's advice.