Published on 12, July, 2020
There are some people in this world that don't fit in, they are seen as different, and they just don't care!
Do you think this is impossible? Or is this just a superpower that I don't have?
I often dont fit in, nothing new for a ND person here, but I also really hate that I don't.
How do you manage this feeling? Are you one of the superheroes that don't care? What's the secret??
I am not one of the superheroes, and I wish I was. I have an agonising combination of needing to be authentic and individualistic, and yet feeling at best uncomfortable, at worst distressed, about how my defaulting to minority or even anomalous status in many realms leaves me exposed to the tortuous silent or vocal (by turns) judgement of NT-biased societal consensus.
But it's better to be one's true self than fit in, have an outward cushion of conformist comfort, and an inner core screaming soundlessly in protest at the suppression of the true self - with a total breakdown (rather than regular burnout) deferred to a future point with a scarily unknowable end-point on the countdown clock.
I like to think, in the vain of trying to find a silver lining, that we exist to help humanity progress. If it weren't for those of us who are the Forager bees of the hive, we'd all be Drones who were trying to mate with the queen bee. Nothing would progress, no advancent in evolution would occur.
Or have I drunk the autism cool aid here?
I believe in our purpose. I guess we just have to suffer the loneliness of that challenge as consequence
I love your comparison
Have you heard what Dr Tony Attwood said along those lines?
I believe in our purpose as well, I just stopped believing that we have to suffer, because it ended for me once I stopped being bothered by it
odds are he is autistic, I saw him last 8 years ago, long before I had any idea, and we talk mostly online, only about games or if rarely I go home we get drunk, though he is married now and has a baby, I never asked him about his haircut, I'd rather avoid antagonising him accidently, maybe he would turn prickly about it, I have no idea how to predict outcome of something like that, and he is the only one from my home city of 40k people
maybe because he is McGyver fun
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0088559/mediaviewer/rm4233741312?ref_=ext_shr_lnk
his looks like that on a good day and I think it's when his mom makes him use a comb, you might imagine how it can be for a geek without dad
For fashion, or does he genuinely not care? He might be a superhero