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Starting new college

Sinead13

I am starting a new college in august and I am feeling anxious about it.I am worried that If I don’t mask that no one will like me. Should I tell people that I’m autistic and be myself and stim or do I try to fit in to seem normal and not say anything. Any tips on this would be helpful 

  • Hiya,

    Good luck with college. what are you going to be studying?

    i started 6th form and masked the whole time which ended in me feeling very low and having no energy to get the work done. i told the people around me about my diagnosis and it really helped. and now i have my group of friends who are really accepting that sometimes i don't wanna talk and just want to hide under a table. 

    So i would advise that you tell the people around you. especially teachers as that means they can make exceptions in class (not asking you for answers in front of the whole class)

    Alisha xx

    P.S. happy to chat further, if you want to private message me.

  • I probably wouldn't tell fellow students straight away, I would get to know them first.  You could tell the lecturers so that they understand if you need to leave etc. Try to find stims that you can do in secret, mine involve pressing my nails into my fingers in turn so I can do that hidden.

  • Don't say anything to students, It might be worth the risk to tell your teachers

    you will have to mask anyway, that's how this word works, they do no not understand, and you can't explain it to every single one

    If teachers know and they turn friendly you might try asking them, if it would be OK to leave class and go hide somewhere to relax, probably toilet will the only option, unless you could find a place outside, and then you will only have to come up with some innocuous password phrase that you need it now

    You might as well start thinking about hiding your stims, to make them look like something else, e.g. smoking cigarettes for me to hide hand stimming, I do not recommend it, it's really bad addiction to make and break