Anyone with autism have sensitivity with criticism?

Criticism has caused me SO MANY problems over the years.

Only last week I had to dig up and move one of my early critics over to the orchard, just so the builders could complete the extension. 

Joking aside, when they told me I was over-sensitive to criticism, I just decided to dial back on what I consider criticism, and thus became as someone put it, very thick skinned.

Which I am right up until I can't ignore it. That is when I choose to either accept the criticism, or reach for the silver hammer I once stole from a boy called "Maxwell"....

I also have had huge problems "mastering" humour, as dishonesty tend to throw me off balance. For those similarly afflicted, only sentence 3 and the first part of paragraph 4 and this sentence have any truth in them...

Sorry the article wasn’t useful for you. The criticism must have been difficult to deal with as a child. I am glad it doesn’t affect you as much now.

I feel maybe it does come from quite a bit of childhood trauma of rejection from peers.

I don't relate to that article. I just remember myself getting hurt by every criticism when I was in primary school. I don't get hurt now but I tend to just talk back at the person who criticised me.

This sensitivity to criticism typically develops because of prolonged miscommunications/ misunderstandings. 

Hello, have you heard of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria?  You may be able to relate to the description of RSD.

This term describes the intense emotional (and sometimes physical) reaction/pain to perceived or real criticism, failure or rejection. It is common in many autistic and ADHDer’s. 

The sensitivity to criticism must be really difficult to deal with.

This article might offer some more insight into your experiences or be relatable for you. If you do relate to the content of the article, your responses to criticism are perfectly valid as with RSD the reaction is involuntary and nervous system based.

http://www.sallycatpda.co.uk/2018/07/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria.html

This is what I have written on the subject of RSD:

’Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria is the term used to describe the extreme and overwhelming emotional pain experienced by many neurodivergent people (particularly autistic people and ADHDers) in response to perceived or real rejection, failure or criticism. For the neurodivergent person experiencing RSD, it is important to note their reaction is entirely nervous system based and therefore uncontrollable and potentially painfully intense for the individual. It is therefore very logical for an autistic person to try so hard to avoid miscommunication.’

I hope this information helps you understand yourself and maybe educate others in your family.

oh yes, totally. When I first posted here I reckon I must have come across as angry or something because everyone jumped on me and I got really upset to the point I couldn't come back on here anymore (I have to lurk in the shadows). I have sensitivity to noise too especially if it's high-pitched. Most of the time I reckon it's because we misunderstand stuff or our behaviour and facial gestures aren't 'the norm' so we're left with being accused of being angry or worried when we're not and people love to point out our flaws. We're left feeling upset because we're made to feel that way and still don't get what we've done 'wrong'. If I cry or try to say  'no, I'm fine' I'm then accused of being 'over-sensitive' - hey ho it gets better and easier (a bit) with age and experience.

No human is set up for Criticism and Rejection. It's not natural. Technically, everyone is sensitive to it. It's just we experience being apprehended, misjudged, misrepresented, misunderstood DAILY. 

Learning to be diplomatic and supportive can be difficult for parents who've never been taught how (especially in the US, where a sense of fairness overshadows compassion). The art of helping another grow and learning to properly identify why something is amiss is also a complex issue.

The main concern is the Depth and Intensity of Impact for the Autistic, the constant sense of failure and Miscommunication. I've suggested we learn to perceive adults as their inner child and children as adults in order to Respect and attempt to understand.