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putting yourself under preassure to be 'normal'

NAS65321

Hi I am a 52 yo man, and have only been self/GP diagnosed yet after finding out about ASD 3 years ago. I have always had two parts of my brain my ASD side and my 'normal side. I say normal as that part seems to tell me what it thinks a normal person would do. It is mostly right but it seems very extreme and lacks any idea that humans fail.  I have had lots of problems over the last couple of years and have suffered two meltdowns, last one in November. Then in March I lost my job, got a new one straight away. However I quit yesterday as I could not handle it. I am now really trying to switch my 'normal side' off as it is giving me lots of anxiety. Am I the only one to have a brain like this?

Rob

  • I’ve recently been in a very similar situation as you. One of the easiest thoughts that popped into my mind while I was struggling was the fact that there are several employees in my workplace who have actually committed bad deeds or broke actual rules and they are still employed. Even more, I have supervisors and higher ups who have done things that others consider to be bad enough to warrant gossip that these people shouldn’t be in those leadership positions.

    When I think of those things, I remind myself how much better I am at my job and how I can make mistakes even and would still have my job. You’re not even doing anything wrong yet you put all that pressure on yourself.

    So yay for finding peace and calm!

  • I was your age when tested and found to have autism +dd.I always knew that something was different about me could never fit in.I became incontinent soon after the test my wife is my supporter.

  • I used to mask to look normal so exhausting and my autistic traits show through anyway I just be myself never act normal coz u want to b normal I had to take a long time to accept myself and u learn to understand more by educating about the autistic brain showing u what u can cope with and strategies to get through life. As for the job world they need to be patient with asd people they think u have a normal brain nooo we process slower and learn slower even though we get there eventually if people take notice our needs so many autistic people wouldn't b out of work all I got told is can't cope only coz they ignored what my brain couldn't cope with. Important our needs need to b met by everyone to understand 5he aspergers brain.