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Poppet

Hi there. I'm new here and am having a problem in my relationship. The main problem is that I don't like or feel anything for him. Because of my autism I feel very little about anyone, I just don't get attached. But also I am masking pretty much all the time so I don't think that helps either but if I don't mask I crash and burn so it's got to be done. The other more recent problem with my relationship is that I think it's become abusive and a bit toxic and cruel. Last night my boyfriend ran me down and embarrassed me in front of his friends and they all laughed at me. And he knows I hate being touched unless I'm feeling in a really good place and happy, and last night I wasn't but he intentionally touched me all over, not sexually, but he still did touched my skin and hair which really upset me. I want to leave but I've got no job, no money as such not enough to live on. I literally depend on him for almost everything. I don't know what to do for the best.

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  • Hi, welcome to the group. You have taken the first step by realising that you need to get out. The above comment sounds to be a good starting point. I’ve been married for 30 years, my wife still always asks before hugging or touching me. Do you have any family at all who could help? I would spend my time getting a plan into place. I know it’s easier said than done. Have a look online at womens help and refuge services.

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    Hi, thanks. It's annoying because I know I need to get away but I've now realised I have no where else to go so that's a problem. I don't have a job or an income so I'm not sure what to do. I did phone up but I got so anxious I couldn't speak so I'm waiting to calm down and then I will try again later this afternoon. Aw congrats to you and your wife, she sounds lovely and very thoughtful and understanding. When I first got in this relationship things were like that but I don't know things have somehow changed now. I've no family to reach out to, not that are close. My dad and I aren't close anymore and I lost my mum when I was 19 sadly. I will keep looking online for support for this.

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  • in reply to Roy

    Hi, thanks. It's annoying because I know I need to get away but I've now realised I have no where else to go so that's a problem. I don't have a job or an income so I'm not sure what to do. I did phone up but I got so anxious I couldn't speak so I'm waiting to calm down and then I will try again later this afternoon. Aw congrats to you and your wife, she sounds lovely and very thoughtful and understanding. When I first got in this relationship things were like that but I don't know things have somehow changed now. I've no family to reach out to, not that are close. My dad and I aren't close anymore and I lost my mum when I was 19 sadly. I will keep looking online for support for this.

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