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Therapy

Autistic-ally

Hi all, 

I'm currently in therapy, trying to help me socialise, maybe meet a girlfriend, get my confidence back. 

my task for the week before next weeks session is think of something I can do outside of my comfort zone to get to know people. 

i really don't know what to pick, I don't enjoy much with being depressed too. And I can't think of much to do to take back to my therapist. 

Any suggestions? 

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  • Hi.  Think of things you could do that are just outside your comfort zone, not too challenging, and as easy as possible to do.

    Not sure if the therapist would accept online socialising but you could put that down and see, that could be here or social media, maybe setup an online group about something you are interest in.

    Offline, you could volunteer - find something local that you could help with, that you are interested in.

    Do a course somewhere, in something you are interested in.

    Join a local group - walking, DIY, gardening, history, reading, have a look what is going on.

    Depression can make it difficult to enjoy things, but many people do the things above because of depression and other health problems, so you might share that and it might help you feel better.

    For now you just need a list of things to do, so focus on that and then discuss them with your therapist.

  • in reply to Autimator

    Hello! 

    Yeah, my therapist said online is good too, as I want to try to venture into the dating world again, and lacking in confidence. Dating is very virtual these days also I suppose! 

    Yeah, I'm just trying to figure out what my 'thing' is, my depression convinces me that I hate everything and enjoy nothing which I suppose is common! 

    Step one: find something I enjoy! haha

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  • in reply to Autimator

    Hello! 

    Yeah, my therapist said online is good too, as I want to try to venture into the dating world again, and lacking in confidence. Dating is very virtual these days also I suppose! 

    Yeah, I'm just trying to figure out what my 'thing' is, my depression convinces me that I hate everything and enjoy nothing which I suppose is common! 

    Step one: find something I enjoy! haha

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  • in reply to Autistic-ally

    Start online then, but online dating can be tough and a minefield, so try other places to build your confidence and learn about the dangers of online dating, and how to be confident with other people.  Confidence is attractive.  You might come across others who aren't that confident though.

    Social media sites/apps can help you connect with similar people, and people that inspire you, put you and your story out into the world.  Twitter is great for discussions and following people who discuss things, I recommend that - plenty of autistic people talking about autism, but also other things.  These aren't dating sites though, keep it respectful - though it could lead to friendships/relationships over time, but not if forced on people.