• Replies 5 replies
  • Subscribers 84 subscribers
  • Views 1165 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Feeling alone in a busy world

Dani

Im 29 and only been diagnosed since October though I’ve always known deep down. 

But I feel like I’m struggling. I crave friendships and attention and a ‘best friend’ bur I find Im often very lazy when it comes to staying in contact with people. I also find with being autistic I become obsessed with the friends I have and want to be their number one which feels very embarrassing to admit at 29. 

i just feel very alone as I don’t really know anyone else who is autistic and I feel non autistic people just don’t get me. 

Parents

  • Hi Dani, and welcome.

    Like the earlier posters above, I particularly hear your second paragraph. I have periods where I overexert myself to try and be the 'great friend' - often at the expense of the friendship. And there are other friends I haven't heard from for years who all of a sudden are close and friendly and helpful. It is confusing, but people are confusing.

    mentioned:

    Autimator said:
    It can really help to spend time being your true self, even if not all the time, and engage with others doing the same - you won't feel so alone then.

    And this is good advice - but also, perhaps, find spaces - like here - where you can be your true self socially. It is less exhausting.

Reply

  • Hi Dani, and welcome.

    Like the earlier posters above, I particularly hear your second paragraph. I have periods where I overexert myself to try and be the 'great friend' - often at the expense of the friendship. And there are other friends I haven't heard from for years who all of a sudden are close and friendly and helpful. It is confusing, but people are confusing.

    mentioned:

    Autimator said:
    It can really help to spend time being your true self, even if not all the time, and engage with others doing the same - you won't feel so alone then.

    And this is good advice - but also, perhaps, find spaces - like here - where you can be your true self socially. It is less exhausting.

Children