Feeling alone in a busy world

Im 29 and only been diagnosed since October though I’ve always known deep down. 

But I feel like I’m struggling. I crave friendships and attention and a ‘best friend’ bur I find Im often very lazy when it comes to staying in contact with people. I also find with being autistic I become obsessed with the friends I have and want to be their number one which feels very embarrassing to admit at 29. 

i just feel very alone as I don’t really know anyone else who is autistic and I feel non autistic people just don’t get me. 

Parents
  • I think a lot of autistic adults can relate - hence the website wrongplanet.net.  When you are autistic it can be hard to get to know people, and then even harder to keep interacting - friendships are hard to make, hard to maintain, and can easily disappear.

    Its difficult when autistic, because most people out there are not autistic, you have to put yourself in places they are, or get to know them online etc.  And even then, it doesn't mean friendships happen - two autistic people could get on, or they could just not engage.

    Its best to engage in autism-friendly places like this, or with autistic people on social media - but have separate accounts for social media if you want to keep things apart from non-autistic people in your life.

    It can really help to spend time being your true self, even if not all the time, and engage with others doing the same - you won't feel so alone then.

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  • I think a lot of autistic adults can relate - hence the website wrongplanet.net.  When you are autistic it can be hard to get to know people, and then even harder to keep interacting - friendships are hard to make, hard to maintain, and can easily disappear.

    Its difficult when autistic, because most people out there are not autistic, you have to put yourself in places they are, or get to know them online etc.  And even then, it doesn't mean friendships happen - two autistic people could get on, or they could just not engage.

    Its best to engage in autism-friendly places like this, or with autistic people on social media - but have separate accounts for social media if you want to keep things apart from non-autistic people in your life.

    It can really help to spend time being your true self, even if not all the time, and engage with others doing the same - you won't feel so alone then.

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