Published on 12, July, 2020
My family are cross with me as they say that since I was diagnosed I am using my autism as an excuse not to change my behaviour and that am doing things now that I wouldn't have done before and "blaming" it in on my autism.
I don't know how to deal with this information. Do I need to pretend that I am not autistic and go back to masking and hiding who I really am? Do I need to act as if I never got a diagnosis and not mention my autism ever again?
My husband says that he feels like he is the only one expected to change in our relationship because now I am autistic it means that I have an excuse not to have to make any changes.
I really don't know what I am supposed to do this information or what I should do about it!
Has anyone else had this happen to them? Any advice on what I should do?
I feel like no-one is willing to accept me as I am and everyone is fed up with me being autsistic!
it doesn't sound like you are 'using your autism as an excuse', it sounds like you are relieved that you have a diagnosis and no longer have to pretend to be someone else.
your husband is right that he shouldn't have to be the only one to change however you having a diagnosis should make him want to change and make things easier for you?
in answer to your question, I experienced a very similar reaction when I received my diagnosis
Thank you for sharing. Has it got any better since?