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Really Struggling Socially

NAS75429

Hello,

My name is Daniel. I've very recently been diagnosed with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) at the age of 25, and am now really hoping that this new understanding about myself may finally help me to overcome key struggles that have always plagued me, with the biggest struggle being socialising and building social connections.

I'm very typical of someone with Asperger's syndrome.

Where should I start??

Thank you.

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  • When I was your age I found student sociaties that aligned with my interests were a good place to make friends. Many of them allow non students to join. I don’t know if that would be an option for you?

  • in reply to Peter

    Hi Peter. Thank you very much for getting in touch. It's an interesting idea, but is unfortunately one that I've already looked into (as I'd only really be able to socialise around my particular interests at university) and not had much luck with. The universities local to me won't let people who aren't students at those universities into their societies.

  • in reply to NAS75429

    I mean that sucks but it does also make it more likely something aimed at non students might exist local to you. How’s your Google fu? Have you tried searching to see if there’s something near by?

  • in reply to NAS75429

    There are more adrenalin junky nerds than you might expect although most of them tend to prefer activities that don’t involve teamwork or lots of sweating. Think laser tag, go carting and LARP. Martial arts actually attracts some. Like maybe 2 to 5% of my martial arts class was nerdy. But sports clubs / martial arts etc are very bad generally for socialising unless they have an organised weekly social event attached which most don't. If you have only an informal social it’s more likely to only attract the social butterfly crowed and be a bit clieacy. 

    id say look at nerdy groups and look for the adrenaline junkies in that circle.

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  • in reply to NAS75429

    There are more adrenalin junky nerds than you might expect although most of them tend to prefer activities that don’t involve teamwork or lots of sweating. Think laser tag, go carting and LARP. Martial arts actually attracts some. Like maybe 2 to 5% of my martial arts class was nerdy. But sports clubs / martial arts etc are very bad generally for socialising unless they have an organised weekly social event attached which most don't. If you have only an informal social it’s more likely to only attract the social butterfly crowed and be a bit clieacy. 

    id say look at nerdy groups and look for the adrenaline junkies in that circle.

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