I'm bipolar, Autistic, ADHD and am physically weak.
A social worker gave me 14 hours a week care. I cannot find a suitable care worker.
I have virtually no one to talk to and am severely lonely and scared every day.
I'm bipolar, Autistic, ADHD and am physically weak.
A social worker gave me 14 hours a week care. I cannot find a suitable care worker.
I have virtually no one to talk to and am severely lonely and scared every day.
I can teach you some techniques to handle your fear & loneliness. I largely overcame those problems in my twenties, P.M. me if you'd like a little privacy, or we can do it in public.
On a different (& more fun) note, is your username a reference to the small town outside of Northamptonshire where they haven' t reported any alien spaceships crashing, or the other Roswell in new mexico?
If you have gut issues, it can lead to physical and psychological issues, as it has done for me. There are certain foods that can cause an inflammatory gut response, like gluten and dairy are common foods that can cause problems, so try to avoid them for a week and see how you feel after that.
Because if I accidentally eat gluten, I can become physically weak, and start having psychological issues like anxiety, and clinical depression (no motivation to eat, shower, or even to live), and if I've eaten a lot of gluten it can cause paranoia. And everything just rolls downhill after that. You can't go out to buy food because of anxiety, you can't cook food because of physical weakness, and you don't have the will to eat food because of depression and lacking the will to live. It's just a bad cycle. And the people around you might not be understanding, might shame you, and while you are struggling to take care of yourself and need help from them, they might not be so willing to help you (to put it politely), which can cause additional stress.
But be easy on yourself, whatever you are able to do, like if you manage to cook food and eat it, if you are able to take a shower, even while you are feeling extremely unwell, that is a triumph. I think that temporarily eliminating certain foods might be a good place to start.
I'm sorry to hear that. That sucks. Do you think it's because of where you are based geographically?
With you in spirit my friend. I think that you are not alone, in the sense that I think that the people reading this care about you and want your suffering to be relieved. I sense that they are part of an even bigger group who would support you if they knew what you were going through. There is a vast unseen community on your side wanting to hold you up.
I know what it’s like to feel despondent and despairing and those feelings ALWAYS pass. I don’t like being wrong. When I feel the feeling will last forever I am ALWAYS wrong about that fact. The pain of the present is a gift of evolution: if I was convinced that the pain would pass to the extent of not bothering to get help or act on it then the pain would have failed in its job It has been working for a long time in various manifestations in order to prompt action, often in support of survival. The human race looked after it self because of it.
Analysis like this is speculation and doesn’t solve my need to get as much help for my mental health.
I sometimes think ‘what is the point’
why get out of bed
why live?
And sometimes I find myself forgetting because of a beautiful sight such as shadows dancing in morning sunlight or I remember something positive or hear something good or smile at a squirrel outside the window or come here to read consolation.
Maybe there is more hope is in what I don’t know.
my ego will want what I know to be where all Hope lies.
unfortunately or fortunately I don’t know everything there is to know.
I don’t know everything that can give me hope. With my sickness of thinking negativity despondency depression it is likely that there is better hope away from that which is in my mind, that is to say I can look away from thinking if I am wondering where to look. Anywhere but my thinking would be a good place to start. If it’s my thinking: Nope.
If it’s not my thinking eg this forum other wisdom distraction of a cat etc: yes
by the way I still haven’t got out of bed this morning
I guess it’s okay as it is my day off
i need to go easy on myself.
I wish you well today
Thank you, you are a good man too. Covid and Brexit have both made finding someone more difficult. The wages also which aren't set by me but the council are not very high. That's due to at least a decade of social care cuts and government after government giving a false promise to finally fund social care properly.
There are two options. Direct Payments where you have to find one yourself or going with a care agency. I've been told by people a care agency is not the best for an Autistic person usually because they rotate staff or introduce new ones without warning, so there wouldn't necessarily be control over which staff they send - some might not be ones I could feel comfortable with.
I live with my parents but struggle to communicate with my father and my mother is nice but has a very busy lifestyle, seeing different people different days of the week. It is Direct Payments and they do give some help finding someone but there aren't many applicants. The most I've ever had is 2 applicants from an ad. This last time only got 1 and he was too far away for it to be possible.
Compulsory covid vaccination has meant carers who dont want the jab changing jobs.
The care sector is collapsing
Can you make yourself more attractive!!!!!!
We can try online care with the chat.
You are a good man
Hi Roswell. Do you have any family nearby? If it's Direct Payments, don't they help you in finding and hiring someone suitable?
