Adult with autism in need of guidance with MATE CRIME

Hello all, I’m writing on behalf of a close friend(with his consent) 30year old male with diagnosis of ASD, ADHD and MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS. He’s had a rough up bringing with the only family member he has to kick him out onto the streets at 16years old. Despite the struggles of everyday life he become a father 6years ago to be told  he’s not good enough to be Involved. He bravely went through terrible court battles despite being on the child’s birth certificate he was not granted access by the mother. Court granted him access through a contact centre and they praised him as father. Hitting a low after all he’s been through and the abuse he’s suffered…he was targeted by the child’s mother and the one family member who disowned him at 16years old to sign over all his parental rights with the promise of regular access to be in his child’s life. The promise was a fraud as the mother could not find any other ways to prevent contact.
He has always maintained child support payments each month and still on going…but no where to turn to for advice, guidance and of course reassurance. He’s been mislead, deceived and treated as if he’s a criminal(no criminal convictions what so ever) surely this is wrong!! Seeking urgent help please. 

  • I couldn’t thank you all enough I’m actually very overwhelmed with how many replies! 

    Since the age of 16 he’s lived on his own in shared housing. He works two jobs, drives very interesting and Intellectual…I did tell him maybe he should write these post as my spelling is horrendous let alone grammar. So apologies lol! 
    I find people on the spectrum tend to be very honest maybe too honest for their own good sometimes. Also very trustworthy. As I have a son 13years old with a Diagnosis of ASD at just 2years. They share similar traits…in a beautiful kind world then these traits are great but this world we live in. People are cruel and it’s very distressing. 
     
    All through out his court cases to gain access the mother stopped at no limits to tarnish his name soo much soo he truly didn’t understand to the point he believed he was exactly what she said he was (emotional abuse) god knows how this would lay on a mind of someone on the spectrum. Even accepted a contact centre which I find bizarre as he has no criminal record, no sign or aggression etc but accept anything dangled in front of him. The contact centre wrote a statement to the court praises his abilities as a father.”one of the best they’ve seen and had the pleasure of meeting” 

    It pains me to know that a woman would truly stop at no limits to see a positive of a father and turn it into a negative    To promise to be consistent and show fairness regarding a child who’s simply loved! to corner a vulnerable person into signing something they did not understand and just like that got away with doing so… He’s only connection now is the child support payments if the money is well spent towards the child he’ll never know but he wouldn’t ever stop them. Otherwise what is a father and what would his purpose be…

    Eunice Mod these are fab links do you have any contact with any of them yourself? Solicitors courts etc it’s all expensive is there are charitable aid I know in domestic violence cases they offer support but I’ve struggled to find anything for vulnerable adults? 

  • just to back up Eunice

    please get professional advice for your friend --- CAB / solicitor people like that.  

  • The, sad, reality is that guys like us are taken advantage of.

  • well yeah if you sign over parental rights you sign over any right to see the child... also if hes signed over parental rights that also means he doesnt need to pay child support at all, but yeah his ex wouldnt have informed him of that little bit wouldnt she? lol if hes signed over parental rights then nowt much can really be done, hes signed over his rights to be a parent and cant get that back..... he can stop paying child support though and say they dont get child support if he has no parental rights... dont give them something when they give him nothing in return... if they want his money they should give him access, if they arnt giving him access he should stop paying them.

  • "You can't spell families without lies!" (from 'Four Christmases')

    His family have screwed him right over, which was replecated in being with a toxic woman.

    Does he have a roof over his head, at least?

  • Hi NAS74060,

    Thank you for sharing this with our community. 

    I'm sorry your friend is going through a tough time. While we are waiting for the community to respond, you may take a look at the following links about legal advice.

    This is a link to Equality Advisory Support Service about equality and human rights, reasonable adjustments, https://www.equalityadvisoryservice.com/

    Law centres providing free law services, https://www.lawcentres.org.uk/.

    Another link to a legal firm, https://www.irwinmitchell.com/,

    Last but not least, you're welcome to visit our page about social care, https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/social-care

    Hope this helps.

    Best,

    Eunice Mod