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Moving/life changes

Paper

Hi I’m 24 male undiagnosed but I am going to seek diagnosis soon. I’m going through a lot of change right now and I’m finding it so overwhelming. I’m transitioning from university to going into work, while also moving to a whole other city to a new place. I’m finding it really tough and had a big meltdown yesterday where I just felt like I’m so out of control of everything happening and the changes in routine are really stressful to me and giving me so much dread and anxiety. I felt exhausted this morning. Everyone around me is telling me I must be happy and excited but I just feel such fear and that everything is out my control.

Does anyone have any tips about changes in life like moving house, getting a new job etc and how they managed the situation? Thank you.

  • u have to face your fears and force yourself to do it.

    Sorry that may appear to be cruel but its the only way out.

    Thats advice from my pyschologist friend.

    I try to do it as much as I can.

  • Hi Paper

    Are you able to do just one change at a time to get used to it and settle before introducing the next change?

    If you can work out a sequence to the changes, each step will be more manageable for you - and don't rush it.  

    Are you able to get any help to allow you to get used to the new positions quicker?   a family member to be a chaperone or 'carer' for a little while as you get your bearings?

  • Hi,

    I was really surprised to find out that moving house is right up there on the top 5 'most stressful life events' list...

    A couple of times I had the chance to gently move stuff between places over a week or so and sort of merge from one to the the other. I get  that in the real world this is quite a luxury but if you have the option ...

    I found that there were different types of 'helpers' available - and I needed both: there was the actual doing - physically moving - but then also some people that I didn't even want them to lift a finger, just be there with me while it was happening (and have a beer of course) and just help me 'be' while all the chaos was going on.

    I think the easier times were when I "grew" some comfort in the new place in advance.

  • Hello ,

    I am sorry to hear that you're feeling a bit overwhelmed with some of the change happening in your life. I can understand why this may cause a lot of anxiety for you.

    Firstly, you may like to look at our information about autism spectrum disorders: 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/what-is-autism 

    If you were interested in finding out if you are on the autism spectrum, you would need to have a formal diagnostic assessment. You may find it useful to have a look at the following link for further information about diagnosis and the benefits of getting one: 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/diagnosis 

     Furthermore, it is important the professional you see has experience of autism spectrum disorders. You can find details of diagnostic services on our Autism Services Directory in the Assessment and diagnosis section: 

    https://www.autism.org.uk/directory 

    If you feel that you might need some support with your mental health, you can find advice and information on how to go about seeking help, including links to other resources and details of helplines and listening support services, here: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/seeking-help. 

    All the best,

    Chloe Mod