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Adult diagnosis - experiences informing work

JohnnyBeGood

Hi

I'm looking at getting a formal diagnosis, after speaking to a psychologist who can help me with it. I mostly want it for myself, my own understanding, and not feeling like a "fraud" in the ND community. 

However, I would love for a diagnosis to allow me to gain some kind of understanding of me by my work place (at least my managers). 

What experiences have you guys had with informing your work places of your diagnosis? I have read a post where someone had a very negative experience. I am wondering what other experiences people have had. Especially where adjustments had been made to accommodate. 

Cheers

Dave

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  • My coming out was used as an excuse to bully me even more - with HR approval - in subtle, nasty ways.

    My hours were 6am-13:30 - so they moved the team meetings from 9am to 2pm.

    The promises of CPD training courses turned into elusive, vague, wishy-washy talk-  and never any action.     I had to complain to the very top to get my advanced programming training.

  • in reply to Plastic

    That really sucks. So what was it like before you told them? I sounds like it became worse. 

  • in reply to JohnnyBeGood

    My manager was a chancer / liar and totally incompetent - had his favourites and mates and my workmates were lazy.      I was the highest qualified and most experienced but the others were mechanical engineers - I was electronics - I could easily do their jobs- (I'm a C.Eng) they couldn't do mine - so I got overloaded and used and abused with no help - they couldn't recruit so i was on my own - the stress made me ill.

    The manager finally abused me in front of a director - I was taken out of that group as a serious safeguarding issue - abusing the only declared aspie on a site of 800 people.

  • in reply to Dawn

    The biggest problem was the lies - you cannot have any kind of professional relationship with someone who lies all the time - over everything - and bending over backwards for his mates and blatantly screwing over everyone else - his mate once booked a total of 46 days holiday and over 70 days 'sick' - out of about 200 work days - all covered up.

  • in reply to JohnnyBeGood

    Because they are only out for themselves and don't care which they tread on. They talk the talk to get the job, but can't actually walk the walk.

    I once had a boss a bit like that. I managed to get out of that team for a job on promotion before he could do me any more damage, though. Phew!

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  • in reply to Dawn

    The biggest problem was the lies - you cannot have any kind of professional relationship with someone who lies all the time - over everything - and bending over backwards for his mates and blatantly screwing over everyone else - his mate once booked a total of 46 days holiday and over 70 days 'sick' - out of about 200 work days - all covered up.