Published on 12, July, 2020
So I have noticed recently my confidence out and about has improved and i am more chatty to people in shops. i can easily talk to my local model shop workers each time i visit (which seems to be weekly) and generally chat to the barista at costa. Before i never use to do all of that as i feel my autism makes me look different. and i started to realize i can't go on like that. i am constantly pushing myself at my own pace yet i cannot manage changes. i still panic about it. and not sure how to overcome it. i am 21 years of age and i feel stupid that i cannot manage change easily. I also want some tips on dating as an autistic/ person on the spectrum. I kinda watched stuff and messed up my thought process and i am constantly fighting urges. I am unsure how i can go from random chatting to actually a date. i am not very social online as in social media because i prefer in-person conversations.
just pick someone you like and ask them out on date they can only say no
did u watch "Dating on the Spectrum" tv programme. It had loads of clear simple tips.
Look at your childhood - all the things you loved like Lego or painting - the people doing the grown-up version will probably be on your wavelength and you immediately have something in common with them.
Thank you. :)
Well done Rhys
Ok thx. However there is nothing local to me. No local groups that interest me.
Very sensible and practical advice, Dara,
I would recommend making riends first, which could be done by going to clubs/activities which involve meeting people. Be open to people being just friends or more, as either way it could be a positive experience. I think after that, you can either outright ask someone out for a drink, or gradually say things that show you like them as more than a friend, such as a compliment, and then see how they respond. All easier said than done, but I hope it helps!
Done dating sites in past no longer do them. Except for Facebook dating though.
As the old saying goes, a frog must date many princesses before finding his soul-mate, Caelus. You only need to find one Caelus that's right for you in every way.
ah im the flip side, im no good at person to person conversations but better at online by text.if your good person to person communication youd have no problem on a date. just dont tell them any negatives about yourself, that puts them off lol dont be honest, they hate honesty despite claiming they like it, they will claim they like honesty then ditch you haha they only like positive talk and bullshit. and then they whine that they can never get a honest man, they dont like honest men, they ditch honest men.
Good for you, Rhys. It always makes my heart sing to read that you are believing in yourself, and seeing positive improvements in your life. It looks as if you are on your way to understanding and accepting yourself for who you are. It's very difficult for us guys on the autistic spectrum to find like-minded partners and friends. Please be careful, though, if you're thinking of subscribing to an online dating site because certain individuals who are not genuine can join dating sites for the wrong reasons. Congratulations on your improved confidence and keep up the good progress!