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slowly improving myself

RhysF00

So I have noticed recently my confidence out and about has improved and i am more chatty to people in shops. i can easily talk to my local model shop workers each time i visit (which seems to be weekly) and generally chat to the barista at costa. 

Before i never use to do all of that as i feel my autism makes me look different. and i started to realize i can't go on like that. i am constantly pushing myself at my own pace yet i cannot manage changes. i still panic about it. and not sure how to overcome it. i am 21 years of age and i feel stupid that i cannot manage change easily. 

I also want some tips on dating as an autistic/ person on the spectrum. I kinda watched stuff and messed up my thought process and i am constantly fighting urges. 
I am unsure how i can go from random chatting to actually a date. i am not very social online as in social media because i prefer in-person conversations. 

  • just pick someone you like and ask them out on  date they can only say no

    did u watch "Dating on the Spectrum" tv programme. It had loads of clear simple tips.

  • in reply to RhysF00

    Look at your childhood - all the things you loved like Lego or painting - the people doing the grown-up version will probably be on your wavelength and you immediately have something in common with them.  

  • in reply to Dara

    Ok thx. However there is nothing local to me. No local groups that interest me. 

  • I would recommend making riends first, which could be done by going to clubs/activities which involve meeting people. Be open to people being just friends or more, as either way it could be a positive experience. I think after that, you can either outright ask someone out for a drink, or gradually say things that show you like them as more than a friend, such as a compliment, and then see how they respond. All easier said than done, but I hope it helps! 

  • ah im the flip side, im no good at person to person conversations but better at online by text.

    if your good person to person communication youd have no problem on a date. just dont tell them any negatives about yourself, that puts them off lol dont be honest, they hate honesty despite claiming they like it, they will claim they like honesty then ditch you haha they only like positive talk and bullshit. and then they whine that they can never get a honest man, they dont like honest men, they ditch honest men.