Published on 12, July, 2020
So I have noticed recently my confidence out and about has improved and i am more chatty to people in shops. i can easily talk to my local model shop workers each time i visit (which seems to be weekly) and generally chat to the barista at costa. Before i never use to do all of that as i feel my autism makes me look different. and i started to realize i can't go on like that. i am constantly pushing myself at my own pace yet i cannot manage changes. i still panic about it. and not sure how to overcome it. i am 21 years of age and i feel stupid that i cannot manage change easily. I also want some tips on dating as an autistic/ person on the spectrum. I kinda watched stuff and messed up my thought process and i am constantly fighting urges. I am unsure how i can go from random chatting to actually a date. i am not very social online as in social media because i prefer in-person conversations.
I would recommend making riends first, which could be done by going to clubs/activities which involve meeting people. Be open to people being just friends or more, as either way it could be a positive experience. I think after that, you can either outright ask someone out for a drink, or gradually say things that show you like them as more than a friend, such as a compliment, and then see how they respond. All easier said than done, but I hope it helps!
Ok thx. However there is nothing local to me. No local groups that interest me.
Look at your childhood - all the things you loved like Lego or painting - the people doing the grown-up version will probably be on your wavelength and you immediately have something in common with them.