Being Drunk

Sometimes, I drink beer with my friends. After that, we sing and dance. When tired, we play [spam removed] It's so funny 

I was never a big drinker, even when i was younger. I was alwars 'the driver' when we went out anywhere, so stuck to shandies or orange juice. And you get so use to not drinking, even when i didn't have to drive, i kept to shandy. I'm nearly 69, and have probably been drunk less than 4/5 times, my  entire life. Sitting here thinking, i can't even remember the last time i had a drink   (alcahol)

I've got fruit trees/bushes in the back garden and a couplr of times i've done homebrew, just to use it up. But may only use it in cooking, give it away, or throw  it away.

Gets rid of, or merely reschedules it?

Gets rid of the anxiety

No it isn't a warped way of thinking at all. My partner and I have discussed it before and I've even been thinking a lot about it this week. We should be aiming to be contented. Happiness is extra. Not achieving happiness will set you up for a fall. You'll constantly be striving for it. Contentment is more "steady".  Although some things are quite difficult in my life due to anxiety, I'm very grateful for everything I have. 

This links to being happy with what you've got in terms of material things. We have more than we possibly ever need in a lifetime.  To quote Brave New World  "ending is better than mending..."

I do not like drinking anywhere I am not 100% comfortable.  I only drink at home, at a close friends, or in one particular bar close to home because it has this game room area no one is ever in and my husband and I like going together.  I only drink with close friends and my husband.  If anyone else is there I do not like it.  I only recently started having one drink at family gatherings, and that is because it is a very tasty drink that my in-laws make and convinced me to try.  

I have ADHD and do not normally have big problems with impulsivness but when I drink I do.  When I drink I also have problems assessing appropriate speaking volume, talking non stop about space stuff or my current hobby/ interest, and also I can not focus on boring stuff and am accidentally very rude.  I also feel horribly unbalanced and my stomach gets very upset.  Anything dark and I am guaranteed to barf even if it's just one.  So I only drink around people who know me well enought to know the difference between my drunkenness and the real me.

I generally don't like it either.  I've probably been actually drunk less than 10 times.

My few friends and husband love that I will always volunteer to be designated driver :) and some places give me free soda for being the DD :) 

i just read your post jacob, and i can relate to some extinit. after a 330ml bottle of larger normal strength i get realxed and i feel more autistic. i dont know ahve there been studios looking at autisim and alchool to see if there a kind of link

Life is a Lottery. A handful succeed, while the majority have to settle for three numbers plus the bonus ball. 

I am totally unable to socialise with colleagues or extended family without booze.

I do like a beer above all else.

On a hot day, nothing like a nice, crisp lager (Tooheys Extra Dry).

With dinner an old school, hoppy sparking ale (Coopers Red).

For BBQs, watching sport etc. nothing beats a slightly darker, full flavoured stubby of VB.

I was pleased to find Stella Triple Filtered here in the UK (but they sadly stopped making it).

So now I drink San Miguel with the odd Paulaner hefe-weissbier.

My Punjabi in-laws like whisky (a LOT), so I've developed a grudging appreciation for it, but if I really want to get hammered it's several glasses of white Sambuca on ice...

I try to limit myself to one beer a day when drinking solo, but no limits when I have to interact with people.

If I want to escape the world though you can't go past a special cigarette...

I used to smoke every evening, but my life is so stressfull for the last few years that I found myself smoking from 6am until midnight... so I can't keep it in the house any more. I just buy a large bag when things get really bad and smoke myself stupid for a week or two and stop again. Doesn't fix anything, but I do enjoy it.

I was slightly luckier than many of you, someone handed me a small chunk of morrocan hashish at work when I was 18, and that suited my condition a LOT better, than the alcohol ever did. It;s as fiendishly addictive of course as anything that makes your life feel less painful, BUT easier to stop. Probably harder to stay off though, becuase the effect is pleasant (to me, unless I smoke too much, then it becomes briefly unpleasant due to the low B.P. symptopms (white face and nausea), but that will pass quickly, and you still don't feel physically ruined the day after, although you may not get much done until midday, if you've really overdone the green stuff) and vastly less harmful in my 4 deades of observation, than the alcohol drug that society does push you towards.. 

And for those poor souls who may be seriously contemplating suicide, before you do that silly thing, (and it is a silly and ill considered step, for the very practical reason that an afterlife is possibly hiding inside the 8 or so extra dimensions that modern physics says must exist for the maths to work, and which aren't available to us in our current form. How you experience that afterlife could very much depend on how you coped with this 4 dimensional reality, and it's probably better to wring all the sucess and learning you can out of this one first before leaving it.. Seriously, that little insght stopped me looking for a way out, and starting to take this life a bit more seriously.) 

Potential suicides ought to be prescribed to take half an "E" and go to a rave, then see how you feel about your potential quality of life afterwards. For those who try this, don't ever do it regularly, but on a one off basis, it is a transformative experience, and will show you a potential "you" that you perhaps do not know exists. But as with all psychologically active substances repeated use definitely makes permanent changes in the user. For example, normal me cannot (and will not on principle)  do dancing, but me on "E" is a very different animal. It also made me like music that I was finding cacophonous to the point that I wanted to leave, just before the drug kicked in, so it's clearly a "dodgy" course of action, but it's less dodgy than the suicidal ideation I'd been feeling for the few weeks prior to taking it. Apparenlty the psych profession is looking towards using MDMA for just this sort of thing, but the problem, as always, is people LIKE feeling good, and when given an instant way of getting those feelings on demand, who in their right mind wants to stop? 

The "pursuit of happiness" is baked into the American constitution, unless they try to pusue happiness by taking a drug that engenders it...

What we really need (according to my admittedly probaly "quite warped" way of thinking) is a societal model that focusses on the things that really make people quietly content, rather than swinging between brief happiness and misery all the time.

And for goodness sake, when will people realsie that mass unemployment is exactly what the industrial revolution was all about. The elephant in the room is the old expression "idle hands do the devils work". If technology had been allowed to deliver on it's promise of an easier life for all, and an entire industry of "depth manipulators" hadn't sprung up to keep you from being content with what you have (and endlessly striving for MORE higher "standard of living" (rather than quality of life) then ones "Work" would be more centred on making the best of what we have, "painting and maintaining" rather than endless replacement with new (but made of plastic) replicas of the items that we use.    

Hi, I have drank quite heavily throughout my life, and I now realize (late diagnosis) that's have tried to use alcohol as a way to integrate.

I don't think it ever worked,no matter how hard I tried.

It has brought me nothing but heartache and trouble. So now at 56 I hardly touch the stuff.

Wish known much earlier.

It's a lot better for me now

I lost years to addiction 

12 steps changed my life for the better 

Drinking has always been a big impact on my autistic life. When I was younger I couldnt cope in social situations with groups of more than two people so I would always get drunk becuase then my nerves and my awkwardness would go away and my autistic traits wernt so obvious. This was so destructive for me, I would make a fool of myself and get into stupid situations that I should never have been part of. I behaved in a way that I am not proud of and that is not my personality at all. Pretty soon that became my new personality, even when I was sober. I look back on it now and I dont even recognise the man I was

I have not been drunk now in 4 and half years and it has been really difficult to deal with people without that mask of alcohol or of being the class clown. Its like my defense has gone if that makes sense. I dont really like going on nights out. At least I am me though and im not trying to be some lairy lager lout like I was before

Dont get me wrong, I still love a drink and will have a couple of beers in the evening after work and go to the pub sometimes but I am drinking to enjoy it now and not to get drunk and I know when to stop before that happens 

I don't like being drunk unless I am at home and can go to bed immediately when I have had enough! 

Put it this way, I can't remember when I last took a drink of alcohol...

(I know it will have been half a capful of rum in my coffee, but I can't remember when the last one was. It may even have been last year).

keep up the strategy but see if u can push it further  in the non-alcoholic direction. 

I dont know how people can effort it !

Haha, sorry, I just get anxious about drunk driving. Glad that neither of you fell off and that you learned your lesson!

 An alcohol drinking strategy that works for me on the rare occasions I get drinking is to switch to non alcoholic drinks (ideally tea) as soon as I start to get "thirsty" which I have learned is the point past which I should not drink.. 

There's always someone available to tell people like me "you shouldn't do that", even Hawkwind wrote a song of that title..

Sometimes they are even right!  I'd find it easy to believe  that some people can still ride safely after one unit of alcohol, especially if they have built up a tolerance. But for me your post is indeed true.

I did once, in my very early twenties manage to take a girl for a ride in the countryside when I was actually too drunk to stand next to my bike without falling over, and the following day I was totally horrified (and amazed we didn't fall off). I never did it again!  

You shouldn't drive or ride a motorbike at all after drinking, even after one unit!!

Yeah I find it much easier to socialise in groups when we're doing an activity eg. art making or playing board games. I find small talk quite boring so sitting around drinking can be tedious for me. 

Another thing that drunk me likes to do is pipe on about my special interests/books I've read/documentaries I've watched, which seems to bore people... they'd much rather gossip or talk about stupid reality TV lol