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Problems with being productive at home

DifferentMark
I'm not sure if this is autism related(am technically undiagnosed atm), but it's always been there. From as far as I can remember. It's like anything that requires effort is incredibly hard. It's like I have to force myself. Pushing through an invisible barrier. When I come back from work im exhausted mentally. This is why I have mostly only worked part time.
Even the journey, using public transport is hard for me. All of it. I feel overly sensitive to everything. Which is why I stay in my room a lot. Even spending time downstairs stresses me out, let alone leaving my house.
I usually shut down when I feel stressed. Stop talking to my parents. Need space. 
Just wanted to see if anyone else experiences something similar? (I am diagnosed with attention deficit disorder)
Thanks, 
Mark

  • Like you, I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid, and recently got diagnosed with ASD last year.  I can attest to everything you said being the case for me as well.  Public transport for me had because I tend to go into a meltdown when let's say a bus for example doesn't turn up when it should.

  • in reply to Dawn

    I also spent my childhood alone in my room.

  • in reply to Desmond79

    There's the paradox for me.  I am that person who wants "shining": it organises my mind and allows me to feel life is in control and yet achieving that is sooo hard as I live with others who don't understand my need for systemisation and routine.  Left entirely to my own devices, I'd have a super organised house and a super organised brain, but the one is contingent on the other.

  • Yes, I can identify with a lot off that...the transport, the exhaustion of an ordinary day...

    I tend to find that as long as I have a strict routine, I can get through the domestic and find time alone with my hobbies to recharge.  Take my routine away from me by cluttering the house at the wrong times or re-organise my schedule and I end up just turning in circles with everything seeming too big to tackle and unable to achieve even basics. I end up sitting in a state of inertia feeling more exhausted than ever.

    I spent most of my childhood in my room alone.  

  • I have endless housework to do,  mainly dishes and laundry. Any other task, I procrastinate on. It doesn't help to have relatives who demand that everything is shining.

  • in reply to violetdr3amer

    Well I work with animals and find office type work almost impossible for the aforementioned reasons. But thanks, something for me to think about

  • i agree with what  just said Slight smile

  • It sounds like it could be sensory overload from autism.

    I used to work in offices and had to commute to work, it was absolutely exhausting and I would often come home from work and go straight to bed, and spend whole weekends in bed.

    What do you do if you don't mind me asking? Is there a chance you could ask your boss for workplace adjustments so they let you work from home, or change jobs for one that lets you work from home?

  • in reply to Daniel

    Thanks for your detailed response Daniel, really appreciate it. Yes, gaming has been my go to 'relaxation/focus time' thing since childhood. It has the right amount of interactivity and visual feedback to keep me on it usually for a few hours, although I usually switch games. 

    I also like going for a run in my local park if my anxiety isn't too bad. 

  • DifferentMark,

    There's many overlaps concerning traits between ADHD and Autism, some people are diagnosed with both. 

    So many feelings and reactions to daily life are ways people on the Autism Spectrum act to cope that differ from ADHD. Mental health is a big matter for autistic people in today's world, the world's expectations and designed environments are not so suitable for individuals with autism, ADHD, dyslexia etc. The masking can be exhausting and raise stress levels along with autistic people having very heightened and intense emotions like you're describing your stress.

    Incase you are Autistic, in your free time do something you feel really interested in, don't stick to a list of chores or expectations, when an autistic person is engaged with what they're interested in it's just as if the world has switched off for a break. So when you stay in your room see if there's anything you're interested and have the motivation to do.

    But yes, according to my research, my own life and other autistic people I've listened to this is very common.