What do you do when you do not want to talk?

Yes and its hard not to snap which I have sadly done many times in the past. One thing which might be a good idea, which I need to do more myself is build time into the day to recharge. This could take the load off slightly when those moments come. I don't know about others here, but I often feel like I would love to exist for a short time without any sensory input or thoughts. To just "be". I suppose mediation could get me there.

I'm guilty of those too Aaron

That’s hilarious. I am known for going with “what do you want me to do about it?” or “it’s not the end of the world”

This suggestion is fantastic. By the time I get to the point that I need a break I’m very blunt and I guess would come across passive aggressive so it is difficult for me to communicate effectively at that point. I think an ideal conversation for me would be almost like bullet points. A brief summary and off I go. I am lucky with work as it doesn’t require much communication with anyone. I am able to mask very well to the outside world whereas at home with my family I can’t mask as well

It drives me mad! My sister goes on a scenic route around a conversation. 

If only that was an option it would make life easier. I do struggle with people who cannot get to the point.

Whatever you do, don't copy my "can you get to the point!" Or "You're boring!" Strangely I find this tends to upset people.

I will read this with interest because this is something I have struggled with A LOT through my working life. I'm lucky at home that my partner is very understanding and I can be really blunt with him and we laugh it off most of the time. It's in work I have difficulty with this and also that it takes mental effort to think of what I need to do to get out of the situation. I think sometimes I'm being obivous with my body langauge or what I say but perhaps I'm not being explicit enough. (I often wonder how much non-AS people fail to pick up on cues........!) People think sometimes at break that I want to talk when i don't, as to me, a break is needing time to recharge my brain and be quiet.

A tried and tested method which requires effort on my part is to just remove myself from the room where I work. This often is detrimental as I end up interrupting what I was doing but it's the only way I can give my brain some space. Could you not do a sort of "I need to make a cup of tea and then we can talk about it..." Just be honest with her, it works both ways and you need to accommodate each other's needs. If it's your kids, can you not do a "oh that's nice go and tell your mum about it!"

That’s a fantastic idea which unfortunately is virtually impossible in my situation... I’d be like “kids grab your coats and shoes we’re going on a walk so daddy doesn’t have a melt down because Mummy needs to talk, daddy isn’t interested but I have to support her”  maybe bouncing a tennis ball or fidget spinner may help... worth a shot.

I imagine the Mrs coming in and saying “Aaron I need some advice” my response “okayyyy my love, where’s my tennis ball?.. what you’ve put it in the bin?” MELTDOWN

p.s whilst elements of that are wildly exaggerated for humour it does hold value to the point feeling a bit giddy this morning

explain at start u have a window of x minutes --- might help 

or try a walking discussion ---- the walking might kick in extra hormones to help

these are just suggestions  - 

if i get like that ---------- i usually pretend i need to go to  loo,do a mini meditation of 2 mins there   and come back