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What do you do when you do not want to talk?

Aaron

I have 2 children and a fiancé and at times they have problems they need advice on or just a listening ear. If you are at the point where you cannot take anything in and are trying to get yourself back on track (recharging) how do you respond or “act”?

I can manage a summary but when things are being repeated and I just cannot take any more info I sort of shut my eyes and slightly turn away. It hurts my fiancé which is understandable because she needs support but I am literally useless to anyone. When I get back on track (recharged) I will always go and see if she is ok but I can guarantee part way through that conversation I will need another recharge and I’ll shut down again.

Any one else feeling my pain?

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  • explain at start u have a window of x minutes --- might help 

    or try a walking discussion ---- the walking might kick in extra hormones to help

    these are just suggestions  - 

    if i get like that ---------- i usually pretend i need to go to  loo,do a mini meditation of 2 mins there   and come back

  • in reply to aidie

    That’s a fantastic idea which unfortunately is virtually impossible in my situation... I’d be like “kids grab your coats and shoes we’re going on a walk so daddy doesn’t have a melt down because Mummy needs to talk, daddy isn’t interested but I have to support her” JoyJoy maybe bouncing a tennis ball or fidget spinner may help... worth a shot.

    I imagine the Mrs coming in and saying “Aaron I need some advice” my response “okayyyy my love, where’s my tennis ball?.. what you’ve put it in the bin?” MELTDOWN JoyJoy

    p.s whilst elements of that are wildly exaggerated for humour it does hold value to the point Joy feeling a bit giddy this morning

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  • in reply to aidie

    That’s a fantastic idea which unfortunately is virtually impossible in my situation... I’d be like “kids grab your coats and shoes we’re going on a walk so daddy doesn’t have a melt down because Mummy needs to talk, daddy isn’t interested but I have to support her” JoyJoy maybe bouncing a tennis ball or fidget spinner may help... worth a shot.

    I imagine the Mrs coming in and saying “Aaron I need some advice” my response “okayyyy my love, where’s my tennis ball?.. what you’ve put it in the bin?” MELTDOWN JoyJoy

    p.s whilst elements of that are wildly exaggerated for humour it does hold value to the point Joy feeling a bit giddy this morning

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