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Jon

Hi,

I had a meltdown in work three weeks ago and have been off work since. There had been some changes to my job and I just couldn't cope. My sick note runs out on Thursday. My doctor recommended that Ocuppational Health are involved. Work referred me to ATOS for 'telephone counselling'. When they contacted me they said it was most likely to be with someone who has no exprience of Aspergers and no specific knowledge about my actual job.They agreed with me that Occupational Health should be involved first. I have emailed my manager this.

I am really worried about going back to work. I don't want to go. I am just about keeping it together not going to work but everthing seems too much. I am just about keeping my depression at bay. I am anxious all the time. Home doesn't feel safe, I struggle with the noise from the neighbours still. Everything seems such a mess and I don't feel able to change things.

I have been keeping it all together for the past forty years but it just doesn't seem sustainable and I just can't manage. If itwasn't for my girlfriend I would be in an even worse position. I feel bad that I am being so useless and depending on her so much.

I don't feel in the best place to try and sort the problems at work out.

:-(

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  • Hi Jon,

    my son had a total breakdown at work about 8 weeks ago and has been off sick since, this is one reason that he finally got his diagnosis.

    My sons employers were aware of his difficulties as he was placed by the disability section of the job centre.

    There has been several changes at his place of work whichhas led to severe anxiety and stress for my son; he also is picking up another persons work before starting his own as  the person involved leaves everything in a mess which my son feels that he has to put right before starting his own tasks. My sons HR department were aware of his stress and anxiety and actually visited him to listen to his concerns; nothing changed. I even sent the link for this website to his HR manager and directed them to the employer support section so they cant deny they were aware of the problem.

    Work is so important to my son that he is now in a vicious circle of wanting to return but he has lost trust and confidence in his employer to support him so he feels that he cant return which has led to severe depression.

    I am going to see his HR manager as this is all I can do to support my son as he cant face work at present.

    I really dont know where this will end but the goal is for him to return to work with the appropriate support and knowledge of his condition by his employers.

    Are your employers aware of your difficulties? If they are, they do have a duty under the DDA to make reasonable adjustments  to enable you to perform your role on a daily basis without causing you to become ill.

    Please let me know how you are doing and whether you have managed to return to work, I really wish you well.

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  • Hi Jon,

    my son had a total breakdown at work about 8 weeks ago and has been off sick since, this is one reason that he finally got his diagnosis.

    My sons employers were aware of his difficulties as he was placed by the disability section of the job centre.

    There has been several changes at his place of work whichhas led to severe anxiety and stress for my son; he also is picking up another persons work before starting his own as  the person involved leaves everything in a mess which my son feels that he has to put right before starting his own tasks. My sons HR department were aware of his stress and anxiety and actually visited him to listen to his concerns; nothing changed. I even sent the link for this website to his HR manager and directed them to the employer support section so they cant deny they were aware of the problem.

    Work is so important to my son that he is now in a vicious circle of wanting to return but he has lost trust and confidence in his employer to support him so he feels that he cant return which has led to severe depression.

    I am going to see his HR manager as this is all I can do to support my son as he cant face work at present.

    I really dont know where this will end but the goal is for him to return to work with the appropriate support and knowledge of his condition by his employers.

    Are your employers aware of your difficulties? If they are, they do have a duty under the DDA to make reasonable adjustments  to enable you to perform your role on a daily basis without causing you to become ill.

    Please let me know how you are doing and whether you have managed to return to work, I really wish you well.

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