Published on 12, July, 2020
I did a very stupid thing tonight. My wife was out for the first time in months after lockdown and I watched a documentary about a mother who had attempted to take both her own life and the life of her autistic daughter because she couldn't cope with her daughter's autism anymore. I shouldn't have watched it I won't go into it further at it's all very upsetting, but she said that jail was better than the jail of autism and all the commenters were supporting her and I was left feeling broken. I hyperventilated, I cried and couldn't stop, and then my wife came home and found me in such a state and we just sat on the sofa and she rocked me. I feel so awful that she had to deal with this when it's the first time she's been out with her friends since all these months of lockdown. She deserves so much better. I'd leave me if I were her. My eating disorder is not great at the moment and I am getting support with it but I just feel such a burden on my loved ones. I feel so awful that my two little sisters had to grow up with me and I worry if my own mum ever just completely despaired at me. I could never be her perfect girl and she's just the best mother in the world and she deserved so much more than me.
Sometimes this pain is just completely overwhelming. It's all-consuming guilt that I had to be autistic. Am I alone?
You're not alone, I've seen so many on the Autism Spectrum thinking they're broken and a burden to others.
Please always remember if people have a problem with something about Autism you're not the burden, their burden is their fear to learn to understand what they don't understand, their fear is their burden, not you or Autism.
The fact when your mother got home and held onto you shows the video you watched is not true. My dad has never given up on me when I need support, my dad's got a full-time job and a partner, I don't like asking him to use his free time on me because I want him to enjoy his life.
So even I myself sometimes feel like I'm a burden to my dad but I get that thought out of my head. I just know by intuition he loves me for who I am, including my Autism.
I too feel a burden but it would be terrible to suicide. However the police don’t understand this and convicted me for trying to help suicidal thoughts........ don’t blame others?..