Published on 12, July, 2020
I have Aspergers, and have been talking to someone I like as a friend (and also secretly fancy!) on Instagram, and it's been going well. I also followed them on TikTok and liked some of their posts, but they haven't followed me back. I have been really nervous about this, and am scared that our relationship is fake or less somehow because of this. I know that they haven't posted again since I followed them, but then I remembered whenever someone follows me on TikTok I'm notified on the home-screen of my phone, so I got scared and thought "What if they have seen my follow and likes, why haven't they followed me back?". I've been trying to separate the anxiety from myself (like labelling it), as I know it is irrational. Do you guys go through similar anxieties, and how do you deal with it?
I avoid social media.
I think it's a really great thing but far too many people misuse it and just hurt people.
I browse it and read but not a part of it anymore.
People used to read newspapers and go mental that way, but usually more privately, but then social media took over and now its global slanging.
Read and observe, but don't absorb or get drawn in by bad stuff that goes on - use it for your own positive purposes if you wish or need to, but keep it there.
Yes exactly, that's what I try to do. It's hard to not upset myself with the bad stuff but it's the same as what you see in the news. Have to try and not let it get to me. I just like to know what's going on but don't get involved.
I'll try to focus on that.
So far my dealings with people online have been negative.
Hopefully that will change.
Positive to hear you've had good ones though.
Yeah, focus on them, I've experienced some great people ND (and some NT) on Twitter with great things to say.
Yeah I struggle with that. It's something I'm trying to learn to be better at.
But I do enjoy seeing some of the things written, some are really nice and happy. Bring a smile to me.
Learning to observe people and what they do without reacting badly or at all is good to learn if people don't already do it, including with people offline that are around us.
Slings and arrows, some people write and say great things (and others less great).