People saying "I wish you were normal"

Wow, thank you so much for this! ️

That makes me sad. I'm sorry. 

Ugh that *** makes me so angry. My mother used to scream at me "why can't you be normal?!" and I can't count how many times I've been called fucked up, damaged goods etc. So fed up of the stigma.

"I wish you were ethical, kind, open-minded and a little more generous but we can't have it all". Is really the only proper response. 

you are very welcome in this forum it is for both autistics and non-autistics

I would like to say to those who think that it is all a question of being more open minded that many times it is not easy to live with a person in the autistic spectrum. I am sure that my father is autistic and that caused a lot of problems emotionally for my Mum and my Step Mum whom he married after my Mum died. I have been in a few such relationships and now been struggling in such a married for the past 5 years. I think that I perpetuate this type of relationships.... I have tried to do everything in my power, believe me, but I am sick and tired. As far as the outside world? Maybe they know don't much about it maybe they do and they know cases like mine, my Mum, my Step Mum.... there is very little help. Would I have preferred never to have met these autistic people? Sorry but yes, have I come across amazing autistic people even on this forum? Yes.... sad no one usually spares a thought for the loved ones, though! I don't want to punch you in the gut in any way, shape or form but I wish I had had a more loving childhood and had not attracted more autism in my life in my later years! Almost 64, sick and tired! 

they are poorly educated on autism is all. don't take offense to it. we have all been poorly educated then learnt which improves us so just help improve them. if you get a chance just say to them its a developmental disorder but i'm no different from you. 

tv has given autism a really bad name only the last decade or so we started to see the positive side of it and made autism seem normal. many people still have this archaic view of autism and if you get a chance to educate someone you should and feel great about yourself for helping the community move forward! 

i'm happy your proud of your autism and you should be.

There is an added irony to my response.

I wasn't enough of a Nerd as a kid, though I loved computers. But I was pushed from pillar to post by Teachers and Other Students who were SmartArses.

I can safely assume you're interested in it if you're the one who brings it up, nonautistic people talk about it even though they don't find it interesting.

I only talk about weather and traffic if I have to engage in small talk.

If there was no such thing as "normal people" they would be no such thing as "abnormal people", each time nonautistic people went saying I have a broken brain I just reflected it back on to them. If they're (bullies) are going to be so disrespectful do they deserve respect, the ones bullying and making fun of? 

Who gets discriminated and why? People who come off as a bit different like autistic people, if they were no such thing as normal people they would be no abnormal people to discriminate. Anyone who agrees with the existence of normal people categorise people into minorities to be bullied and discriminated.

Do parents of autistic children claim their children to be abnormal and broken? I doubt it.

I've Asperger's and talk about the weather and traffic. 

That's so hard. Like I hate that some of us just don't feel comfortable enough to be ourselves. 

This was actually really nice to read. Sometimes I forget that neurodivergent exists and that many Autistic people have created lots of things! 

just to remind you this forum is for autistic people and non autistic people as well. We have loads of non autistic parents and carers in here who we invite in here and have every right to be in here

Daniel said:

Normal people are the creators of racism, discrimination, bullying and other offensive actions.

I know aspies that can't tell their own extended family because of their vocal attitudes to people on the spectrum..

Ask yourself, what's a normal person? 

Normal people are the creators of racism, discrimination, bullying and other offensive actions. 

I would like you to know this, your brain has abilities that are nonexistent in so called normal people. Autistic people are now able to describe ourselves as "neurodivergent", those of us with neurodivergence think in a different way, by doing so we are creative and radical thinkers, since normal people think normally they only think of normal day to day things. 

Next time, if you feel able to, raise your voice telling them your talents. Tell them their normal brains only think of normal day to day things, not very creative, lack of focus, that 90% of technology came from Autistic brains.

Point out to them they claim the truth is so important and they choose to intentionally be dishonest and hide the truth. Remind them they love having boring conversations like the weather and traffic, remind them of their obsessive interest in socializing and wasting time, remind them they're scared to be different to their peers. All of these are Neurotypical Deficits, they have a pathological disorder that gives them the inability to communicate in a straight forward way and that's why it's so difficult to understand them.

I can see you find it hard, but try not to let them drag you down and tell them about their Neurotypical Deficits.