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People saying "I wish you were normal"

Tashlovesturtles

First time posting here so I hope I'm doing it right. 

I've noticed a lot recently when my Mum talks to others about me or my brother having Autism people will often say things like "Oh they have something wrong with them" or "If only we could give them normal brains" and I'm standing there feeling like absolute crap cause then I think "Well I'm obviously useless so what's even the point of being Autistic and being alive. Then there's the sympathetic sad looks from people and the" Oh I'm so sorry for you" comments. It just really gets me down sometimes. I'm very proud of my Autism as it makes me who I am but when I hear the comments it's like a punch in the gut. 

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  • I would like to say to those who think that it is all a question of being more open minded that many times it is not easy to live with a person in the autistic spectrum. I am sure that my father is autistic and that caused a lot of problems emotionally for my Mum and my Step Mum whom he married after my Mum died. I have been in a few such relationships and now been struggling in such a married for the past 5 years. I think that I perpetuate this type of relationships.... I have tried to do everything in my power, believe me, but I am sick and tired. As far as the outside world? Maybe they know don't much about it maybe they do and they know cases like mine, my Mum, my Step Mum.... there is very little help. Would I have preferred never to have met these autistic people? Sorry but yes, have I come across amazing autistic people even on this forum? Yes.... sad no one usually spares a thought for the loved ones, though! I don't want to punch you in the gut in any way, shape or form but I wish I had had a more loving childhood and had not attracted more autism in my life in my later years! Almost 64, sick and tired! 

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  • I would like to say to those who think that it is all a question of being more open minded that many times it is not easy to live with a person in the autistic spectrum. I am sure that my father is autistic and that caused a lot of problems emotionally for my Mum and my Step Mum whom he married after my Mum died. I have been in a few such relationships and now been struggling in such a married for the past 5 years. I think that I perpetuate this type of relationships.... I have tried to do everything in my power, believe me, but I am sick and tired. As far as the outside world? Maybe they know don't much about it maybe they do and they know cases like mine, my Mum, my Step Mum.... there is very little help. Would I have preferred never to have met these autistic people? Sorry but yes, have I come across amazing autistic people even on this forum? Yes.... sad no one usually spares a thought for the loved ones, though! I don't want to punch you in the gut in any way, shape or form but I wish I had had a more loving childhood and had not attracted more autism in my life in my later years! Almost 64, sick and tired! 

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