Using Dating Apps As An Autistic Adult

As Plastic said, dating apps are very shallow and full of people looking for a shag.

I am like you in that I struggle holding down a relationship. Men find me attractive and unusual at first, but then they don't get my humour, and I've been told by pretty much every ex-boyfriend ever that I am "cringey and embarrassing" in social situations.

Have you tried meetup? I think the best way to meet people (friends or potential partners) is through shared interests/hobbies.

violetdr3amer said:

Have you tried meetup? I think the best way to meet people (friends or potential partners) is through shared interests/hobbies.

Yes - meetup is great for a low-risk social scene-  I've been a member for over 5 years doing coffee meets, bowling, pizza evenings, pub nights etc.

Have you made any friends through meetup? I tried it before and didn't have any luck - it mostly seems to be people much older than me who have very normal jobs, interests etc

violetdr3amer said:

I found with 'alternative' people, attention seeking, immature NTs who seem to be dragging out high school forever. 

LOL

See I used to have an eccentric extrovert mask and was open with all my quirks, stims and weird jokes (this was pre-diagnosis) but it backfired spectacularly... people don't like it when a woman acts like that, they get scared.

And yeah that's what I found with 'alternative' people, attention seeking, immature NTs who seem to be dragging out high school forever. 

I think you sound perfectly normal to me - it's that ability to find others like you that will help you find yourself.

I'm a twin - I could see I was different to my brother so i created a huge extrovert mask and advertised all my interests so other closeted aspies saw me and felt emboldened to 'come out' about their nerdy interests too - we used to used the art block at lunchtimes to make models and the gym after school for RC cars and RC planes on the weekends in the playing fields..      I'm still in touch with them all.  

'Alternative' people tend to be just attention seeking NTs.

I think you sound perfectly normal to me - it's that ability to find others like you that will help you find yourself.

I'm a twin - I could see I was different to my brother so i created a huge extrovert mask and advertised all my interests so other closeted aspies saw me and felt emboldened to 'come out' about their nerdy interests too - we used to used the art block at lunchtimes to make models and the gym after school for RC cars and RC planes on the weekends in the playing fields..      I'm still in touch with them all.  

'Alternative' people tend to be just attention seeking NTs.

violetdr3amer said:

I found with 'alternative' people, attention seeking, immature NTs who seem to be dragging out high school forever. 

LOL

See I used to have an eccentric extrovert mask and was open with all my quirks, stims and weird jokes (this was pre-diagnosis) but it backfired spectacularly... people don't like it when a woman acts like that, they get scared.

And yeah that's what I found with 'alternative' people, attention seeking, immature NTs who seem to be dragging out high school forever.