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I am a 39 year old female undiagnosed. I have an 11 year old who was diagnosed at age 4 . She has never been an obstacle to me only a relatable mess that I could short cut to an acceptable social pretend or not care .I am not sure I'm autistic I've always been antisocial unless chemically induced.The last 3 years I have regressed to something that resembles can't try or won't go on.Leaving my home is the hardest thing I don't do.Ive been choosy about where I go if I go and should I go my whole life but this is a new monster .A week old corpse has more vitamin D than I have maybe .It is very depressing because after 3 years I could understand quality of life and deterioration of personal dignity My mom was suddenly unfunctionally agoraphobic and had fibromyalgiabefore reaching my age.I would like to know if anybody has similar knowledge or experience of this happening to maybe.anyone else.I need to prepare my daughter to actually see a therapist if she can't walk out her door . Don't be rude about my text errors I never text I refuse to send emails but I'm desperate to know will she be ok because she's diagnosed. I can't imagine her reaching out to anyone. Tell somebody that your struggle with leaving the house just became unbearable and you are unfunctionally tired .Did anyone elses mom have fibromyalgia or agoraphobiaia?

  • Sorry to hear of your struggles. And the other response is right, developing a spiritual practice of meditation will be so beneficial for you. I also have struggled with aggraphobia before, but meditating twice a day has really helped me over / through it.

    Should note, you can only get 10% of your Vit. D. levels from food, so going out is paramount to health. Really don't underestimate this, it helps mood, growth, and so many mental processes.

    Personally, I like to go to places that I don't find difficult, usually that provide some solitude. A walk in the woods, alone, over the hills with my partner who knows of my struggles, or for a surf when there are barely any waves (because no one else paddles out). Do you live near water? Water really helps you realise the ebb and flow of the physical world, and that what Taoists say about the Middle Way, is so true.

    All the best everyone Pray

  • I used to have agoraphobia and I was afraid of leaving my house for years, and no matter how many times I've been outside, I was still afraid. I was isolating myself because it was very difficult to deal with.

    I don't know if this will help you or not, but try to go on a gluten-free diet for a week and see if you feel any better. I suggest this, because gluten causes some people digestive issues, and also it can negatively impact mental and physical health. There is an old but interesting term called "bread madness" where there is a relationship between gluten and psychosis like scizophrenia. And gluten can also cause physical ailments. People with fibromyalgia had improved symptoms from a gluten-free diet. 

    In my case, after my health got better, I could go outside without feeling afraid anymore. The difference was that before I could tell myself constantly for 3 weeks to go outside, only to be outside for 3 minutes before getting scared and running back inside and having a panic attack. Now I can get ready in like 10 minutes and go outside immediately, and it feels amazing to go outside on the same day, instead of like a month later. 

    I still don't like the sun that much, so I take cod liver oil for vitamin d instead. But if I take a multivitamin I stop taking the cod liver oil because it'll be too many vitamins.

  • This sounds like much more than what a community can help with, though some individuals here will know more about where to get professional help!

    I can give you my experience and tell you as a 40 something female, that I have had some similar issues and learned a great deal self-care so I could properly be a mum to my son. I had a difficult childhood and grew up poor. I felt incredibly hopeless and lost in my early 20s.

    In my experience, though it became important I was as healthy as possible for my son. Not just to be able to think clearly but also children only learn by watching, he always knew when my words didn't match my actions, so I decided I would learn perspectives and ideals to put them into alignment. Now he's in his 20's he exhibits the same actions. He also deals with depression more then I do but we discovered that when he started taking even half the recommended dose of Pukka's Ashwaganda, it really changed things for him. However, because it is a form of Natural Vitamin D, we were mindful he didn't take too much.

    I have all sorts of biological malfunctions which I have found ways to counteract. I take half-dose of a daily multi due to a GP recommendation as I'm Gluten Intolerant and I also take a mushroom complex, one which helps my immune system, contains a sufficient amount of D and also has a balancing fungi to help with female issues. Lastly, I've found a company that's incredible but slightly expensive called Crystal Star. I cannot rave enough about them, they've been around since the 70's and have a few formulas that are amazing for women's issues. But I also have to limit my alcohol and sugar. 

    This may sound overwhelming to you just now. I am also an introvert, but becoming mindful of diet and just doing a little yoga every night has had such an amazing impact. Sometimes even finding a spiritual grounding can be useful to some. My son also has his own work-out routine. He helps promote health with his friends in small ways as well.

    I hope this helps. And hopefully others can give you specific resources as well!