Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi,I'm very conflicted. I have my assessment appointment on Thursday. My mum told me a year ago that 'since childhood, you've always isolated yourself at home and have had mood swings'. She now has no recollection of this, and has told me I was completely normal growing up. My dad corroborates the idea that there was nothing out of the ordinary.I really want an autism diagnosis. It would explain so much (social) trauma I've been through and four psychiatrists have told me they believe I have it. Should I just not pass on my parents's contact details to the assessors?
I didn't get anyone else involved with my diagnosis - my dad was dead and my mum was in total denial of my 'quirks' - normalising everything away. She's long deceased now but looking back at her behaviours, I strongly suspect she was undiagnosed aspie too.
Thank you! Sorry to hear your parents have passed
thanks - but I'm an old fart - these things happen - but I was only diagnosed in my 40s - mid 50s now.
My report has '"clearly has Asperger's" many times..
That's true - we can't live in what-ifs
What might have been? - dunno - I've had a very 'full' life and retired at 49. Would another version be any better?
Thank you from he good wishes!
Haha, I like that quip about the film!
It's a shame your abilities weren't cultivated and nurtured as they otherwise might have been :/
Mytwenty said:was able to diagnose me with autism
Excellent! Congratulations!
They say everyone has a photographic memory - but most people have no film
Yes - I used to live about 200 miles away from here and I remember everything in such great detail - like it was yesterday.
The teacher in my infant school spotted I was 'different' at 4 1/2 and wanted me to attend a special school where her husband worked - unfortunately, my parents were dumb and lazy and didn't take up the offer.
We moved down here in 1972.
When we moved down here, I was so advanced that the teachers at the school here didn't know what to do with me - so they let me do my own thing. They had Lego and Meccano - I was in heaven - All the things I did and made were so impressive I was permanently being sent to see the headmistress to show her the latest device or gadget I'd just built. but in reality, I was just academically abandoned for the year until I moved school into Juniors.
Sounds like you have photographic recall! It's interesting hearing the drawbacks of having a really good memory, namely the loneliness. Thank you for typing all of this out. Pleased to say that, in spite of the lack of parental input, she was able to diagnose me with autism
My diagnosis was done privately by the top man in the field - it took the form of a friendly conversation over a couple of hours where he skilfully laced all the questions together into the chat- I was so naive that I didn't spot what was going on - hence the 'clearly has Asperger's' comments - with a background Savant presentation..
I remember everything in my world from the age of about 2. I remember laying on the floor near the table & chairs while I had my bottle. The legs of the table & chairs were satin black with gold ends with round feet. I remember sitting behind the sofa alone while my mum was teaching my NT brother to speak. I remember laying in the carry-cot on the back seat of a Mini Traveller. I can remember the Pekingese dog with one eye that the old lady next door neighbour had.
I can still draw a floor plan of my infant school when I was 4. I know how many coping stones were on the island on the path outside our house. I can draw a floor-plan to the house I lived in from 2-6 with accurate dimensions.
I have total recall of my entire life. It's something I can't discuss with my (twin) brother and (older) sister because their memories seem to start at around 8.
PlasticI read another member saying that where they didn't know the answer to a question, the lack of response/evidence got construed as a sign of neurotypicality. As someone who has obtained a diagnosis, were you able to answer every single question concerning your early development?