If you are working, what careers are you in?

<span;>I like to study more than work. school was hell, college was better, but the university would be great if there were no other students or if they were engaged in their studies, and not in the popularity rating. If they paid for my studies, I would have taken this job. In any case, I tried to choose a profession based on my interests, and this is the line that runs between psychology, philosophy, physics, human relations and spirituality. It is this line that connects it all. So I learned all this and made a single "map". Now I know a lot, I notice a lot, I can even sometimes explain to neurotypics what is happening with their lives, feelings and relationships, it also helped me to meet the person with whom I have been for 8 years, but I could not find a suitable job. While I was at the university, I was persuaded to go to work as a teacher, but it was too much for me. I thought I'd be able to work as a psychologist, as knowledge and education enough and have an understanding of what happens to a person (usually I'm not mistaken and saw almost the whole situation),
<span;>but it turned out that people need something else. It turned out that no matter how great a specialist I was, my inappropriate facial expression, lack of eye contact, excessive chesnost and speech sometimes similar to a scream and sometimes to a patter, but always monotonous spoil everything, and rocking on a chair does not cause people to trust. In general, it did not work. Then I tried to disguise myself and was able to work with a group of children for a whole year, the results were very good, the children became calm, could solve problems through conversation, reflect on their states, those who had previously stood aside were able to join the general games, but then there was a breakdown right at work, it was terrible, I scared the children, parents, one child began to stutter well, and other problems were. I scared everyone and hid in the toilet, and when everyone left, I forgot to turn off the water in the taps and there was a flood. I had to make repairs, as hot water flooded 2 floors. I didn't work at that place anymore, and I wasn't able to work with people full-time anymore. Then there was a lot of things and now I can't do much, probably burnout. I receive a minimum disability pension and hope that someday I will be able to open my own small online shop with jewelry made with my own hands.

Welcome to this forum since u are new. Are u autistic ?  I work with software engineers every day

Hey,

I am a software engineer, it works quite well for me because I can work with computers which is what I am good at and I can work very focused for longer periods of time. 

nothing beats a positive postie

I am a postie. It’s a great job for me and is the longest job I have ever had without either getting fired or quitting after a year. I have done this for about 8 years, and although I have aspirations of moving away from this work I do like my job.

it’s repetitive and as I have a set round I have built up a good rapport with people and am very capable of masking when needed for small talk and such NT bullcrap. Some of my customers also know I am autistic and have asked about work and if I am ok; they seem to appreciate I am diligent and apply common sense - I feel lucky because I have had chance to show my best aspects in this role.

Other jobs I had may have been more demanding academically (I have a degree and several post grad quals) but I hated all the politics and social expectations and crap that frankly I do not get nor care to. I can be a bloody good postie by being organised and structured. The independence of the role is also a big draw.

In summer I get paid to walk in the sunshine listening to podcasts or music and get paid for it! Brilliant!

Mark (NicheMarket) said:

What I struggle with is knowing or noticing the political and social skills they're using

Me too - and they're doing it so naturally - all the time - to everyone they know so were being continually outmanoeuvred and outflanked and we're completely oblivious to it until they make their kill moves against us.     It's like being in a jungle with the predators all around........watching for their opportunity. to pounce.

I always thought the point of going to work was to do a good job so the company makes money and I get a pay rise and keep my job - and being the best would lead to promotion.    I really was very, very naive.

Yeah, that's kinda what I think. What I struggle with is knowing or noticing the political and social skills they're using, when they're monkeying their way up, orunderstanding the impulse.

Most NT things there's at least a slither in me of it so I can relate to it and make instinctive sense or figure it out. The power and staus thing I just can't relate to any impulse or thought in me.

I've just lost someone from my team and have realised that his pride and staus had been wounded too often (for his own fault), but it's just invisible to me why he made so many status and power bids.

I'm the same- a freelance proofreader/editor. A lonely life but pays the bills and I can live in my imagination.

give yourself a name, fill out your profile and start your own discussions  and gain some friends in here

I’m undiagnosed, but have had tons of jobs that I haven’t been able to keep due to overwhelm- apart from my current one, a remote freelance writer! It’s lonely at times but pays the bills and I enjoy writing and being able to move around.

I’m 

Yeah it can be really tough for a number of reasons. Even just sensory wise sometimes can be too much. The good thing is they do seem keen to support me which is definitely a positive!

Thank you! I appreciate that. I must admit it is extremely difficult for a number of reasons but I do the best I can

I am the exact same. My CV is quite long. Started in a bank myself. I have done admin, security, HR, recruitment, vet work and then ended up in the police. Generally stay 2 years in a job and then feel the need to move. 

I think it’s hard because people don’t really understand and see you as a job hopper but I just get to the stage I need to move on!

Mark (NicheMarket) said:

But I just can't gain any insight into this power and status thing

I've concluded it's from a very primal reproduction-powered drive - to have the best partner, the best nest, the most resources, more / better food, more offspring, better territory, better job title, more money, more underlings, more power etc.  

It's a really basic drive that they absolutely cannot control..   They will take it by force if they need to - or use their politics & social skills to 'monkey branch' their way to the top.

It's funny, cos in a way she was saying "I don't want to give a ***!" Sadly though she did well for a while she seems well caught up in the game again:(. But yes, a nice validation for me, and nice she told me.

What!?!

Alright, WOW.

I’m not actually surprised by that, I have to say. But it’s  just such an amazing thing for you to be able to carry that memory through the rest of your life.

Right on! Congrats!

Elizabeth

Elizabeth, sometimes I'm conscious of how cool the AS mind can be. I am proud I've carved a good life, even if there are bits that don't work. There was one colleague at work who on her annual review on being asked on her desired direction replied that "I want to be like Nichemarket."

Plastic Whilst I can be pretty AS on lots of things, I still find I can analyse NTs motivations, behaviours, actions, egoes, thoughts etc really well. But I just can't gain any insight into this power and status thing, I'm just left with an empty mind when I try to think what it means. But I think it'd be useful to understand given I "manage" people. And well I'm curious, it's like the thing I least get. I've been trying to find a book on it but got nowhere.

Thanks for that message, KKC! Well, I find you very interesting and I’m a real person so this can be sort of “in real life” right? :-)

I’m glad you were able to find that freelancing work. That’s wonderful. And yes I’m doing well. I hope you are too. :-)

Elizabeth