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Stressed, worried that neighbour will be noisy again

Hope

The neighbour was really noisy last night (see other thread). I am worried there will be a repeat, and it is making me stressed, as if I were not stressed enough.

How can I reassure myself? The thing is, that uncontrollable noise makes me stressed. If I can control the noise, it is fine. If I know when it will start and finish, it is bearable. But if it can't be controlled, or it occurs at  an unacceptable  time, I get stressed.

  • I don't like the Summer much for the same reason as you Scorpion. 

    In the past, when I lived in a flat, I did sometimes try a pollite note asking them to turn it down and saying something like "you probably don't realise just how thin the walls are" but it has on occasions lead to an angry response, I don't know why.  I was in a constant state of anxiety and waiting for it to start.  I did eventually manage to get out. Now it doesn't happen often and when it does I can usually get away from it into another room, or it it not so loud that I cannot drown it out with some radio. 

    The worst time recently was when I had builders. I didn't have the courage to ask them to turn it down, even though I was paying them!!

  • Anonymous
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    My neighbours fight at night -violently. It wakes me and my son but also their own small child who screams, understandably. I find it really unsettling and upsetting, it "messes with my head" - just horrible. I'm partially deaf but this doesn't help - it's the whole confrontation/fighting thing which bothers me. And the fact that they are the first to complain if we disturb them. Everyone's noisey sometimes, I'm guilty of the occasional late night row/music and I have two vocal dogs but week in week out fighting is a little too much

  • I have the same problem, not so much at night, but from time to time, with one of my upstairs neighbours.

    Particularly during the summer, when they'll have all the windows open, and they'll be talking loudly all day long.

    Another of my upstairs neighbours (the one directly above me) has some kind of fridge/boiler/something that is a problem at night, because it switches on and off every 20 minutes or so, and the vibrations reverberate through my flat.

    I've looked into using ear plugs, and have some I sometimes use when vacuming or when I put the washing machine on, however they're not very comfortable and shouldn't be worn whilst sleeping.

    Another thing I've considered, but haven't looked into is white noise generators. These create broad spectrum random noise that the brain blocks out, so you can't hear it, but it interferes with, and blocks, external noise. I believe some hospitals use them. I do worry that I'd be able to hear it though.

  • Hi Hope,

    Not sure if I have much advice but just to say I have serious problems with noise from neighbours. I really want to move house. Am using ear plugs, defenders, isolation headphones and plugs at different times to try and manage it. Even if the noise was 'reasonable' I would struggle. The intrusion takes over and I feel v anxious and stressed. I feel very vulnerable and scared by the noise. Talking to the seems impossible. I jujst don't think they know how noise travels and as i am pretty quiet I guess they don't hear me.

    I get the uncontrolable aspect. Thats why I feel reassured (a little) by being able to use plugs etc....I hate wearing them though.....

    The only real soultion is for me to move somewhere quiet. (a long term plan that won't be easy and seems impossible and overwhelming). Is that an option for you Hope?

    Good luck