Is it fair for parents to shout at you?

yes, sometimes,  what did u do wrong ? parents get angry because they are stressed just like you, ure mum is human too. 

what did u do wrong ?  is ur mum autistic ?  mine is ( un- diagnosed of course )

Well, my mum want's me to do stuff like clean and stuff the way she does it, But I tend to do stuff my own way as everyone else does. She says I'm lazy and don't help. I have ADD and i can be slow and for me, I only help someone if they ask for help. So far no, she shows no signs of autism, anger management yes

Mac78321 said:

I only help someone if they ask for help.

That sounds a bit selfish.

Do you not feel any personal responsibility to help your mum look after you?       Disability is not really an excuse to be selfish - it just means there may be limits to your ability.

Well. taking the bins out, cleaning, decorating yes that's all me that does that. I understand what I said might sound a bit wrong, I have a hard time explaining things. But you both have made me think about a few things, Thanks 

Then surely the adult thing to do is to negotiate with your mum about what you can do and why you think it's better than her way and explain the problems you have with her way.       aidie is asking if you think what you do covers the costs of housing, feeding and looking after you.

If you step back and look at it, do you do any cooking or decorating or sorting out the rubbish and putting the bins out - can your mum rely on you?

Then surely the adult thing to do is to negotiate with your mum about what you can do and why you think it's better than her way and explain the problems you have with her way.       aidie is asking if you think what you do covers the costs of housing, feeding and looking after you.

If you step back and look at it, do you do any cooking or decorating or sorting out the rubbish and putting the bins out - can your mum rely on you?

Well. taking the bins out, cleaning, decorating yes that's all me that does that. I understand what I said might sound a bit wrong, I have a hard time explaining things. But you both have made me think about a few things, Thanks