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Decision making

hohner

I find it hard to make decisions of what to do, even in the smallest of situations.

I'll give you an example..

Situation: My right eye has been sore(dry) and red veins, I also have a pain in jaw underneath my ear, pain in teeth area, back molar top right and low middle. The pain is Dull, like I've just had a tooth out.

Remedy: Bought dry eye drops, took a pain killer tablet(struggled to do this).

The pain continued for another 5 days and still is there, although feels a bit better(the eye is not as sore)...but I have been deliberating what to do, worrying it will not get better and how do I get help  ?

1.) Go to doctors for check up

2.) Go to the Chemist for check up

3.) Keep taking the eye drops

4.) Wait and see if it gets better by itself. 

5.) Take another pain killer.

Bottomline, each of those solutions has a people interaction and change stress..., I CAN NOT MAKE A DECISION, I make so many potential variables in my mind and freeze up.

Any advice on decision making, stopping myself from freezing up due to the unknown variables or too many variables.

STUCK IN NO MANS LAND ! Cry when problems arise

 

 

 

 

  • Thanks for replies,, great information and points made,, I think I will write to the doctor so even just to record my correspondence as an official recording and it will allow me to express myself easier and clearer. Because I feel my health concerns are just talked away by the doctor,, yet I am still in physical pain.   

    Thanks again all Smile

  • I've thought of another two -

    when I don't know how I feel about something, and when I don't have enough information.

    I wonder if it is about needing to know what will happen, before I make the decision.

    I have reduced my contact with people to the absolute minimum.  I am now in a much less stressful situation than hohner, so I don't see them as 'minging animals full of vomit' but I do see them as unpredictable and irrational who are unlikely to spend the effort in trying to understand someone who needs things to be predictable and "well defined".  They don't seem to think with a great deal of precision, and if they don't know which of two options is better they seem to just pick one and don't worry about it, which we cannot do.

  • Silver100 said:

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    I completely understand. I can't make decisions either. I have to get my mum to choose my clothes for me every couple of days when I change them. Se has to tell me what to eat and what to do moday of the time. It's horrible so I can sympathise but prob not much help I'm afraid. 

    I have only a few sets of clothes which I wear in rotation.

    There are two situations, that I can think of, that are particularly difficult for making decisions:

    1.   When there is no particular reason to choose one option over another - I think that applies to clothes most of the time.

    2.   When there are so many possible options it is hard to work through the advantages and disadvatages of each, I may give up.

    I heard of a person that, after doing the washing, sat all day looking at the weather if it was not raining but looked as if it might. She hung the washing outside if it was sunny and dried it inside if it was wet but didn't have an option if it was neither. My solution is to always dry it inside.

    I need a reason for a decision, and I cannot kid myself with a fake one, I just come back to the decision again.

    decision making and timetabling can be problematric for me. I am not so spontaneous. if I have not planned something out in advance then it probably won't happen. I stick to the 'usual' routines and activities meaning that there I am not faced with unfamiliar choices. Yes, it can sometimes get very boring. If someone (my partner) is focused on timetabling something into the calander then it ussually happens and I can work with that. I just seem to need that extra organisational input. Left to myself then I do less and less.

  • Silver100 said:

    What I started doing, which has worked for me, is I write the doctor a letter and send it so it has been scanned into my computer record by the time the appointment arrives and she reads it on screen during the appointment, that way I get across what I want to say, because I know I won't if I have to speak, and when I have taken writing with me I have not given it to her. I spend quite a lot of time composing the letter in the safety of my own room and I leave time to think if I have missed anything out that she needs to know, or if I have put in a lot of detail she doesn't need that would obscure the main point.

    this makes alot of sense and I do something similar but actually take the letter with me.

  • AnneMargaret said:

    I completely understand. I can't make decisions either. I have to get my mum to choose my clothes for me every couple of days when I change them. Se has to tell me what to eat and what to do moday of the time. It's horrible so I can sympathise but prob not much help I'm afraid. 

    I have only a few sets of clothes which I wear in rotation.

    There are two situations, that I can think of, that are particularly difficult for making decisions:

    1.   When there is no particular reason to choose one option over another - I think that applies to clothes most of the time.

    2.   When there are so many possible options it is hard to work through the advantages and disadvatages of each, I may give up.

    I heard of a person that, after doing the washing, sat all day looking at the weather if it was not raining but looked as if it might. She hung the washing outside if it was sunny and dried it inside if it was wet but didn't have an option if it was neither. My solution is to always dry it inside.

    I need a reason for a decision, and I cannot kid myself with a fake one, I just come back to the decision again.

  • Silver100 said:

    What I started doing, which has worked for me, is I write the doctor a letter and send it so it has been scanned into my computer record by the time the appointment arrives and she reads it on screen during the appointment, that way I get across what I want to say, because I know I won't if I have to speak, and when I have taken writing with me I have not given it to her. I spend quite a lot of time composing the letter in the safety of my own room and I leave time to think if I have missed anything out that she needs to know, or if I have put in a lot of detail she doesn't need that would obscure the main point.

     

    Wow your doctor/practice sound great Smile

    Um I too struggle with decision making a lot Frown

     

  • I completely understand. I can't make decisions either. I have to get my mum to choose my clothes for me every couple of days when I change them. Se has to tell me what to eat and what to do moday of the time. It's horrible so I can sympathise but prob not much help I'm afraid. 

  • What I started doing, which has worked for me, is I write the doctor a letter and send it so it has been scanned into my computer record by the time the appointment arrives and she reads it on screen during the appointment, that way I get across what I want to say, because I know I won't if I have to speak, and when I have taken writing with me I have not given it to her. I spend quite a lot of time composing the letter in the safety of my own room and I leave time to think if I have missed anything out that she needs to know, or if I have put in a lot of detail she doesn't need that would obscure the main point.

  • quote "I know the feeling, each choice reduces your options and you have second thoughts and go round in circles but just make a phone call or go out and the decision is over."

    that is the problem,, so how do you stop the going round in circles, probably looking for the perfect solution, lack of confidence, people phobia, engaging in conversation(I HATE THIS), having to explain myself(I GO INTO TOO MUCH DETAIL, talk until I nearly faint and hold by breathe), new faces, the stimulas, I end just hidding in bed Frown? Honestly I see the world as a bad place and do not want contact with people, they are ugly looking creatures, full of there own egotistical vomit, they all look like minging animals to me.

     

     

     

  • Go to the dentist for a check up ?

    use antibacterial mouthwash for a few days ?

     

    My first advice would be to see your GP,

    its free and he should be able to say something sensible.

     

    I dont think waiting to see what happens was a bad idea, but as its been going on for a while you should get someone to have a look, probably a doctor or dentist but if you respect a local pharmacist asking their opinion wouldnt be a waste of time.

    maybe if you explain to the receptionist you are autistic and dont like waiting rooms she might be able to book you first thing in the morning or after lunch so you can get seen without a wait.

    I know the feeling, each choice reduces your options and you have second thoughts and go round in circles but just make a phone call or go out and the decision is over.