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Party tomorrow, have to go and dreading it

Hope

I hate parties. They are noisy, crowded, stuffy, smelly, over stimulating and spontaneous. I would rather stay at home with a book in the comfort of my own bed. But I can't get out of tomorrows Christmas party, whereas usually I would just not go. Seriously freaking out. Help!.

 It would not be so bad if it was during daylight hours, but it is in the evening when I am at my most stressed to begin with and would just like to relax in my bedroom. I really hate socializing for 'fun' - anything but.

  • Went better than I thought. I stayed out of the noisy area and had a deep conversation, no small talk, with someone else who has Aspergers. Enjoyed it more than I had thought I would, but will have to sleep it off tomorrow.

  • Assuming you have ASD..

    do the collegues/friends your going with know you have ASD?

    only reason i ask is I can give you my experiance and techniques for coping with my last week.... my team know i have ASD and didnt pressure me into it... it was noisey, crowded, dark... yes i wasnt comfortable there but what i did was excuse myself regularly to go outside... get abit of fresh air and unwind... only 5 minutes here and there.. helped me, that way you feel apart of the group/team but your not pushing yourself too much.. plus just leave when you feel youve had enough... nobody is going to hate you for leaving early.. i know my team appreicated me even coming out which put me at ease

     

    hope everything went well for  you

  • Most NT's know a lot of people dont like parties,

    and I think a lot of them dont like parties much either, they just dont admit it.

    I would just get a plausible reason ready for why you have to leave early,

    doesnt have to be true just something you can say as a reason for leaving,

    maybe you have to be up early for something or worried about travelling.

    If you say you have a headache or a cold people are usually a bit more understanding.

    Anyway dont worry, you might meet someone interesting or find out something new.

  • Which I had the answer, I suffer too. 

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    1.) I would say go with someone very close and let them be your guide and protector.

    2.) Only stay for a hour (on your time frame, take a stop watch or alarm to go off).

    3.) Don't go.

    4.) Go early.

    5.) Only speak to people you know.

    6.) Arrive first so you can get used to the stimulas and feel more in control.

    7.) Thinking about the future is actually irrational, so make irrational your silence friend and laugh at yourself. Smile

    8.) If you go to the party and die, I'll send flowers.

    Let us know, how you get on with your irrational mind challenge, when, but at the end of the day it is your call, to go or not to go, the earth will still turn. Remember, the environment does not control you. You know who is going to be there, why you are there. You are at one with your environment. Enjoy or not enjoy you will still live another day. Wink

    Hohner