autism and agression

obviously right off we know this is a controversial and hard topic, but its something i really feel needs adressed for all of us.

i want to ask both sides, autistics and nts, what your views/thoughts on autism being connected with agression are;

first , for the nts who know /live with someone with autism who DOES have agression and sometimes violence,

for example, those with children who have 'tantrums that can result in violence and them lashing out, usually because of an autistic related stressor (hypersensitivty or misunderstanding of social experiences etc) as i have read a good number of those stories on this site, many of you have said you experience this

how do you feel when there are so many trying to distance autism from this issue, when those of us who live with it believer there is a connection? 

and for those of you with autism,

how do you feel about the connection made when you personally have never been agressive, lashed out or violent ?

and for those who have been agressivew, lashed out or violent, do you feel the connection is a fair one or unfair? 

as i said, i know this is a 'loaded' question, please try to be respectful when answering, thanks Laughing