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Regrets obsession

DaveAsperg

Yes I have been very successful but now seem obsessed by all the opportunities I missed mainly because I was so focussed on routines and academia and my job. So I realise I doing this I missed out taking my children to professionals football matches and national rugby matches even though we were often in Twickenham staying at my mother in laws house when the World Cup was on etc.

I know I have a lot left , but I’m stuck on all the negatives. I feel I’ve failed my wife and children.

maybe this negative focus is why autistic people have such a high suicide rate.

but I do like the joke therapy!

what do others feel about focussing on the negative and maybe having been too confident that you were doing well before.......

Any actions that have been helpful? I wonder about pursuing my effort to develop an alternative suicide prevention service as the current medical model is inappropriate for many people.

i am impressed with Russell Brand’s insight into the distress of suicide over Caroline Flack whose death was probably caused by the media and the Crown Prosecution Service. I am pleased the debate has been opened but know that the IOPC has historically always supported the cps and has never said anything against either the police force or the cps, even when coroners have raised concerns. We shall see....... but I am sure they will not criticise the authorities. They only criticise individuals that the police want to dismiss and waste loads of public money defending inappropriate police actions 

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-49955628

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  • No replies. I certainly feel alone and wonder what others make of me as I no longer seem to fit anywhere. Frightening for suicidal thinking 

  • in reply to DaveAsperg

    Hi Dave, I'm sorry I didn't write anything either. I read the top half of the post and identified completely with it, but I didn't identify with or understand how the second part and the link to Carl beech connected with it, so I didn't know what to say, but obviously there is an important connection in your own life. 

    I do get stuck in regrets and rumination about the past. When it's really bad I  have to take explicit action and listen to a therapy recording to get myself out of it.  I listen to Mark tyrrel on YouTube sometimes, he has a great soothing voice and it can take the edge off an anxiety attack. I have to address the obsession and deny it power over me. 

    It works to a degree though its hard work, plus I do a lot of exercise to lift my mood.

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  • in reply to DaveAsperg

    Hi Dave, I'm sorry I didn't write anything either. I read the top half of the post and identified completely with it, but I didn't identify with or understand how the second part and the link to Carl beech connected with it, so I didn't know what to say, but obviously there is an important connection in your own life. 

    I do get stuck in regrets and rumination about the past. When it's really bad I  have to take explicit action and listen to a therapy recording to get myself out of it.  I listen to Mark tyrrel on YouTube sometimes, he has a great soothing voice and it can take the edge off an anxiety attack. I have to address the obsession and deny it power over me. 

    It works to a degree though its hard work, plus I do a lot of exercise to lift my mood.

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