Published on 12, July, 2020
I find it's enviable that I become the Enemy,
This last three months I seem to have upset 5 people all without trying all I do is go to work and do the work in the proper way and return home,
thier is someone I believe who is upset with me because I haven't said good morning which to be honest I feel odd going out of my way to say this plus they haven't gone out of there way to do the same?
One person who has effectively ruined my day because they took my desk
another who is fundamental lazy and when asked to do one of the requirements of her job she didn't want to so I highlighted it with my manager.
Someone else who keeps calling me the man but it's in a way to condescend and I don't know how to respond, so I just smile this is starting to piss me off actually.
And on and on.
This is normally how I enter my depression and then have a breakdown then quit my job I hate this cycle, does anyone else experience this cycle?
Sorry to hear this!
I do so hate it when people get upset with me and fail to explain why!
I also hate the expectation to greet various people in certain ways. I’m quite sure that there’s a social rule book that I’ve never seen that sets out exactly how and when you should greet various different people such as colleagues, boss, neighbors etc.
Why has someone taken your desk?
Lazy people are annoying. Has the manager got them to buck their ideas up yet?
Is there anyone at work who could help you with any of this?
They took my desk so they could sit and talk all day with her friend but she spent half the day away from the desk and left all her stuff a mess on top like a tip.
The boss did have a word with the lazy person but I think that's why she's angry with me.
But I'm going to try not to get upset maybe I will stay positive.
And no one will help but that's okay because I don't want people to know I'm autistic as it always end in me getting fired or tormented until I quit.
Honestly I'm in a new job now and although it still upsets me and effects the way I work,
The thought of Legal action had crossed my mind, but what effect could it have in getting a job in the future if I was to loose my current job.
so not worth the chance of being blacklisted.
I only feel that this experience of mine should be shared as people who actually believe that they are protected at work by these laws might benefit from at least being cautious of those who give this promise.
...This is all unfortunate. (not sure whether to vote this up.)
There are/were others upon this Forum who knew a lot about the LAW. All I can suggest is 'suing for "unfair dismissal" ' or something like that. A significant thing written here is:
. said:my then boss
...So the company sort of has a New "Boss"...? All of this is unfortunate and bad, hopefully someone here can suggest better advice (...e.g. - LEGAL). There are good people out there, and good companies, it is a matter of finding them, and, alas, LUCK (and Law). Keep on with the evidence, though... I apolgise that I still do not know what to say about 'not declaring Autism' primarily, but it does sort out Organisations/Persons more tolerant from those less tolerant. Good Luck, again, "K".
Yeah I do but I can tell you that I called them many time and all they said was write a letter to my employer stating what I thought I needed help with,
it wasn't that much longer I had a nervous breakdown and handed in my resignation.
I had been calling everyone who is supposed to help in these situations and got the same old crap,
I called lexxic because the lady who did my assessment assured me that she would not allow my employer to use the assessment as a stepping stone to fire me and that I was protected by the discrimination act, and when it came to it they said there is nothing they can do only give guidance on reasonable adjustments.
Basically I would never let my employer know I have autism even if they were good and supportive because they could leave and the next boss could be an ass.
And the company I worked for was a very big bank so I can say that in the end if you don't fit the narrative you get the boot no matter what you think your rights are I still have all the one to one's with written comments from my then boss asking me if I think it's fair on my colleagues that I work there I wasn't supposed to keep it but I did.
And whenever anyone asked about disclosure to an employer I always tell them what happened and show them my one to one's dated so you can see them daily harassment constantly setting me tasks I've not not been trained on the noting how I've failed in them.
That all seems really bad! People tormenting you or firing you because they know that you’re autistic is disability discrimination! Do you belong to a union?
A lot of this is all to do with dominance hierarchy and status. By insisting you always say hello first, they put you in an inferior position. By taking your desk they are establishing a territorial claim. It's all very primitive and animalistic but neurotypical people do it all the time. They even do it in organisations which pretend they're about equality!!! All about pushing people up and down the social ladder. Pretty pathetic.
...This is all just "LIFE" (dealing with Allistic People). We sympathise with You, here so far. You might also need to find something like a Meditation to get You through whenever things are about to become overwhelming.
...But not declaring Autism, I can understand the doing of this yet have no advice to give about it. Sorry... really... (I am just one of those that says that first of all since it would be provoked/found out anyway.) Good Fortune To You, again from Me.