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Finding a relationship

NAS65581
over 4 years ago

Hello, 

Please can you anyone help me with what I am struggling the most, 

I have to find a relationship or taking next steps to finding love, however I have tried dating sites, I just got turned down and I present myself very well. I connect very well people and i have no trouble communicating with people, 

I don't know if im rushing things or how I'm seeking a relationship I'm not doing it right i don't know. I concert worry about ill be on my own for near future? 

Any advice? 

Thanks 

  • over 4 years ago

    I found dating sites to be totally soul destroying environments to be honest, but then I believed the hype and probably used them for too long. I wasn't aware that I was probably on the spectrum at that point though, I just thought that I was shy! Like Pathfinder and Plastic have said, there's no easy solution unfortunately. In my opinion you are much better off trying things like Meetup and trying to meet like minded people in person as they have said, though I know this is easier said than done. Trust me, I know!!

    By the way, I was complimented on my politeness by someone that I met in a Meetup group a while back, so if you do get the chance to offer to walk someone to their door or a station etc, I reckon that they *will* appreciate it!

    Good luck!

  • over 4 years ago

    I agree with    Dating sites are not that useful any more.    The people using them have changed - They're now over-populated with blokes looking for a quick shag with no strings and women just looking for their ego to be boosted by the insane amount of attention they get.    Neither are looking for an actual relationship. 

    If I were you, I'd get out and explore your hobbies to meet more people or join Meetup.com and do the social scene and see what happens.

  • over 4 years ago

    Dating sites are not the best way to meet people.  I've done Cupid and POF over the years and had a handful of disaster level dates.  For a time I tried one for people on the spectrum, which wasnt much better.

    If you want to meet people and find someone, im afraid it is going to require a multi pronged strategy.  Dating sites are simply one part of it.  Maybe head to your local autism group and get involved.  Join a club if you can, like a walking club or something that isnt going to be a complete overload.  Socialise and put yourself out there, as much as you can tolerate.

    Everything takes time.  Oh and dont be too old fashioned (as I was told by one person).  Apparenly walking people to their house and opening doors for people isnt the done thing anymore. ;)

    I am still searching.  Maybe it will happen one day.

  • over 4 years ago

    Hey :) 

    It's good that you're taking that initiative - dating apps/sites can be a great, modern way to meet people! But bear in mind that it takes time and patience - you won't always find someone straight away, and like in real life, you can experience several rejections before you find someone. Hang in there, keep trying, and you'll find someone in time <3

    Much love <3