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Not Learning From Experiences

NAS49761

Hello everyone 

I've been doing some research on this subject and beleive it's termed Experiential Learning, however I've not as yet found any good information on this in Asperger's Syndrome.

Does anyone have any references to information about this they could share? Or is the reason I've not found any because it is not typically an AS feature?

Also, does anyone else in the community have a problem with this? 

Thanks

  • No information sources anyone?

  • in reply to NAS49761

    I'm traumatised once more from another person. I thought I'd learnt the last time as I thought ok that's not okay I will handle things differently. This was a new location, new people. I was super uncomfortable but instead of speaking up I froze on the spot then let myself be guided out the room. There I had a meltdown

     I feel like a failure tbh. I'm almost 40 :(

  • in reply to mouse2

    Thanks for replying, I've heard something similar said to me many times like, "what do you mean it's different?!" them, "it's exactly the same", me "no its not, it's different". 

  • in reply to Nessie

    Thanks for replying, yes, avoidance seems an essential survival tactic for many with an ASD.

  • in reply to NAS64761

    Thanks for replying

  • Me too, I wondered wether its because if a situation is slightly different, it feels like a completly new situation so i dont know how to react? ie no 2 situations will ever be exactly the same

  • Yep, totally, to all of that. It is a common autistic trait, and accounts for the years of physical, psychological and sexual trauma I suffered. I don't have a constructive solution (my default setting is to avoid all people), but I can certainly empathise.

  • in reply to NAS64761

    Thanks for the reply, I am wondering if this phenomenon is something to do with how people with ASD apparently will see each experience as 'new' eg, not taking what they have learned from one situation and applying it again if that makes sense so not sure if it's more about that rather than not actually being able to learn.

  • I definitely have a problem with not learning from experiences when it comes to social nuances and decision making. I have been bullied or taken advantage of in some shape or form throughout my life. Also, when deliberately trying to tough it out in anxiety provoking situations, I don’t learn anything sub consciously that could evoke a less anxious reaction the next time around. My mind does not habituate or adapt for the next possible occurrence of a particular stressor, no matter how much I ‘practise’.