So Im new here

No need to feel stupid, book another GP appointment, maybe with a different GP if you can, and take along written notes of your reasons for thinking you're autistic plus your scores on the AQ50 & maybe EQ50 and EQ10. Remind them if necessary that autism can look like anxiety (because living with undiagnosed and unsupported autism can *cause* anxiety!) and that autism can look different in females, and that what you've read helps you understand yourself & fits like a glove.

I hate eye contact it makes me feel uncomfortable but they I get distracted by looking at other things and I’m lost then and I haven’t heard I think that’s been said! 
I will take a look at those screenings now x 

For me, eye contact meant staring; which made women and girls feel awkward around me. (the feeling of being unloveable)

Again, no one knows kids like their own mum. It was my mum who got me diagnosed with Asperger's. (she read about it in a women's magazine in 1991 and saw everything about me there)

• Keep trying, my son always made eye contact too, that is not the only indicator, he also had a very wide vocabulary early on, in fact getting him to be quiet was more of a problem.  I have just looked up the AQ10and Aq50 tests recommended by I'm done with Christmas cards, which are the ASD screening and diagnosis indicator tests and scored 7 on one and 39 on the other, very interesting, they are worth looking at. Please excuse me if I ramble, I just tend to write whatever is in my head so it can come out a bit oddly at times, sorry

"Don't believe the Adverts! Don't believe the Experts! Everyone will sell your soul!" ('Destiny Calling' by James)

Thank you for sharing podstick! My girl is def a mini me! I have been thinking since she was 2 she was autistic but been told no by many NHS padetricans because she can make eye contact! 
I have read so much about how hard it is for adults to be diagnosed.
I hate the thought of counselling I may go see the same doctor who referred my daughter! 
Doctors is the right route to take but it may take many trips xxx 

Hi, I'm with you, it's taken me longer to get there though, I have a 19 year old with ASD/ADHD and as he's grown up we always joked that he's just like me.  I'm 50 now and it's finally dawned on me that we could be the same person, it would explain a lot, tbh I think if I was diagnosed as ASD it would be a relief, it would explain so much, haven't got to the doctor booking stage yet, wasn't actually sure what route to take to get it checked.  I would go ahead with the counselling and they could look into it further, if they think there are traits they can always refer you on.  Fingers crossed you feel more in control soon.  Good luck to you.

Thank you both so much for your replies. I’m not sure if the doctor realised how much it took me to go there today. I’m now feeling stupid. 

I have read up so much and I’m so sure. 

What would you both recommend I do next. 

Welcome! If it turns out that you do have autism (and even if you don't) you've taken a very positive step. Probably everyone here can relate to the "light-bulb moment" and finding out more about yourself is rarely a bad thing.

Being "not sure what to do with this" is understandable, relateable and probably will be ongoing for some time! But try not to worry - you've come to a good place.

Bear in mind that GPs vary in their level of familiarity with autism and even more in their ability to believe that the person sat in-front of them may be autistic despite their presentation. So - keep your courage, don't be put off / take a "no" as definitive unless from a specialist (& even then.....) and arm yourself with knowledge.

Easy & effective things to do include a) do the AQ50 (available via your favourite search engine) and maybe EQ50, and also look at the AQ10 (short version of the AQ50). GPs use the AQ10 as a screening instrument to justify their referral. These will give you more insight if you haven't done them already, and you can take them along to your GP for a second go (I just spotted your reply that you've already seen the GP).

Also, if you don't already know - dig in for a long wait (18 months is typical) or be prepared to pay privately.

By the way - anxiety and depression are often secondary to autism (in other words, autistic people, especially those not diagnosed until late in life, often suffer from anxiety and depression as a result of battling with life with undiagnosed autism) and these are often diagnosed as the primary issue leaving the root causes undiscovered.

Well the doc just said it was aniexty and has told me to self refer myself for some counselling!!! 

Welcome,not in the same boat but in my own alogside yours! for a while.

good luck with your journey,personally i found my diagnosis a blessing as it allows me to accept my self more than before.the sooner the better i think.I understand the anger,and the anxiety but in me the former is a result of complex PTSD,along with depression that unfortunatly come with ASD alot of the time.

hopefully youll get some better answers,its a nice place here,its not really SM i dont think,as i hate SM!.