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Dichotomy of AS females talking to males

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I am self-identified as likely being on the spectrum. Before I knew this I used to try to figure out why I sometimes really struggled with people of the opposite sex or got on really well with them.

Can any females relate to the fact that you might struggle with men in one situation as you are expected to be the more social ones and "lead" the conversation. Yet on the other hand get on really well in other situations with a different man/men because they are more direct in their communication and there aren't as many variances/subtleties as there are with females?

Can any women relate to what I'm saying or am I just talking nonense? 

Thanks

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  • I do think firstly, that regardless of gender, some people are just easier to get along with than others. I have some female friends that I find really easy to talk with and I have some male friends that I find really easy to talk with. I think overall I do tend to find it easier to be open with a male friend as opposed to a female friend but again it depends on the person. Is it perhaps more the case that autistic people are more inclined to be friends with who they want to be friends with as opposed to who other people and society think that we ‘should’ be friends with?

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  • I do think firstly, that regardless of gender, some people are just easier to get along with than others. I have some female friends that I find really easy to talk with and I have some male friends that I find really easy to talk with. I think overall I do tend to find it easier to be open with a male friend as opposed to a female friend but again it depends on the person. Is it perhaps more the case that autistic people are more inclined to be friends with who they want to be friends with as opposed to who other people and society think that we ‘should’ be friends with?

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  • in reply to Kitsune

    I agree with some of your points but the last one about autistic people being friends with who they want to be friends with, well isn't that what everybody does? Why would you be friends with people you don't want to be friends with?

    I think my post isn't just about friendship but communication in general i.e. colleagues, family members.