Don’t have any friends

I have my husband, who I met at 16. Then a guy from uni who I later became friends with through email, and a daughter of a colleague. All three are introverted and accept that I don't go out to parties or clubs. We probably meet 3 times a year and that's usually enough for me. I'm grateful to have them as I know I'm not very likeable.

Since my daughter started school I have tried to make friends with other parents but without fail they always cut off from me once they get to know me. In hindsight, I wish I had kept myself to myself as the constant rejection is horrible. In 2 cases they started acting hostile after I told them I have autism.

A life of feeling like "I think this person likes me" only to discover that they were lying or being fake, gets quite depressing. When I meet people with 30+ friends I feel very inadequate.

Having said that it feels very nice knowing that it's not just me. I guess if everyone had 0-3 friends I'd be okay with it.

I have my husband, who I met at 16. Then a guy from uni who I later became friends with through email, and a daughter of a colleague. All three are introverted and accept that I don't go out to parties or clubs. We probably meet 3 times a year and that's usually enough for me. I'm grateful to have them as I know I'm not very likeable.

Since my daughter started school I have tried to make friends with other parents but without fail they always cut off from me once they get to know me. In hindsight, I wish I had kept myself to myself as the constant rejection is horrible. In 2 cases they started acting hostile after I told them I have autism.

A life of feeling like "I think this person likes me" only to discover that they were lying or being fake, gets quite depressing. When I meet people with 30+ friends I feel very inadequate.

Having said that it feels very nice knowing that it's not just me. I guess if everyone had 0-3 friends I'd be okay with it.

Fraiselongue said:

Since my daughter started school I have tried to make friends with other parents but without fail they always cut off from me once they get to know me.

I'm sorry to hear that. It's ridiculous how, even as adults, people don't outgrow their childish behaviour and playground politics. It's one of the many reasons I've decided not to have children; I know I couldn't cope with the noise, neediness and randomness of a NT child, much less a child with ASD, plus the additional pressure to nurture and facilitate their socialisation/social life would be more than I could bear. Fortunately, my partner is equally happy with it being just us, so we're looking forward to a quiet life once we're married.

Fraiselongue said:

I guess if everyone had 0-3 friends I'd be okay with it.

Me too!

Those people with 30+ friends, of those friends I wonder how many would extend themselves to help out in a tricky situation where they had nothing to gain.  It may be just the cynical old git in me speaking here, but I tend to assume probably not many.  Makes me feel a little more comfortable in my 'self contained-ness' at any rate.

horses and dogs are my  the best friends.