Looking for a relationship

I find group socialising incredibly stressful due to filtering out noise, knowing when it’s ok for me talk etc. As such, Meet Up events don’t work for in regards to finding a partner. I much prefer the 1:1 interaction of online dating and met my husband through Bumble.

I liked the man to make the first move re arranging a date. I also expected them to ask me to meet f2f within a couple of days of messaging as this demonstrated that they were keen and serious about starting a relationship. Plus, it enabled both of us to move on quickly if there was no spark in real life. 

NAS50301 said:

I find group socialising incredibly stressful due to filtering out noise, knowing when it’s ok for me talk etc. As such, Meet Up events don’t work for in regards to finding a partner. I much prefer the 1:1 interaction of online dating

I am the same.

I wonder if it is realistic for me to find someone nice and loving ever...

The solution to this quandary seems to be to ask out women who are not in groups. If, for example, you're on the same train every day and a woman you regularly see seems attracted to you, you can talk to her, then ask her if she wants to do something some time. 

Thus avoiding any group dynamics. Though, of course, they will come into play later when, most likely, she will want you to meet her family and friends, and also she will probably observe how you interact with strangers during the date.

I went on a date with a woman once and she started talking (more or less flirting!) with a man on another table in the coffee shop!

The solution to this quandary seems to be to ask out women who are not in groups. If, for example, you're on the same train every day and a woman you regularly see seems attracted to you, you can talk to her, then ask her if she wants to do something some time. 

Thus avoiding any group dynamics. Though, of course, they will come into play later when, most likely, she will want you to meet her family and friends, and also she will probably observe how you interact with strangers during the date.

I went on a date with a woman once and she started talking (more or less flirting!) with a man on another table in the coffee shop!