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Facebook - good or bad ?

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What is your experience of social media with respect to autism, have you found it useful in making you feel part of society or have you had poor experiences to have decided to ditch it?

  • in reply to I'm done with Christmas Cards

    Me too - full of self promoting/upmanning narcissistic posting of "look at me/my life".

    it is like any addiction, once hooked then you have to keep feeding it, there is a need to detox/remove yourself from those that affect your mental wellbeing.

  • in reply to Gamma Shadow
    Gamma Shadow said:
    Communication tends to be very superficial in the way of likes and replies but oddly polarizing when it comes to political and cultural issues. Using it regularly makes me increasingly stressed as I attempt to mine it for validation and attention which, lets face it, is not going to end well.

    Absolutely spot on & describes my experience perfectly. I'm better off (and much less stressed and focused on it) now that I've finally broken away from it and deleted my account.

  • I think that Facebook as a social tool doesn’t really work unless you are only using it to link up with your actual friends and family. Otherwise it’s far too easy to get drawn into the dramas of people that you don’t really know. If you use Facebook for a specific purpose then it can work. For example, I only have a Facebook account now so that I can have a group page for a local group that I’ve set up for Autistic women and for that purpose, Facebook is useful for me to share information with group members and also to gain new group members. High privacy settings are essential though otherwise pretty much anyone can see all your information.

  • How I use facebook is for the secret groups that exist to serve the oft misunderstood and rejected of society, the LGBTIQ, with emphasis on the T and I of that acronym where of the two groups that I have kept I admin both to be diligent in maintaining safe and supportive spaces. Interestingly one might understand of the T and I of that acronym autism is a factor. As it is most that use those spaces respect them for myself to have only ejected one person in three years, as one knows poor behaviour can be the result of internal pain, meaning we PM people to ask them how we can help.

  • You might think how it fits with YOU as a media and as a channel of communication. Can you communicate and connect with people based on your updates and pictures etc. I know the answer for me in no. I can't stand Fb so I am not trying.

  • The only way that is safe for me to use facebook is to not really use it. The timeline updates happen too fast to process. Its filled with users who want you to award their stupidity. Communication tends to be very superficial in the way of likes and replies but oddly polarizing when it comes to political and cultural issues. Using it regularly makes me increasingly stressed as I attempt to mine it for validation and attention which, lets face it, is not going to end well.