I’ve just joined this community because for some time I’ve been thinking that my boyfriend may be somewhere on the spectrum.
he seems to get wound up by little things, like the fact my plates were square & they annoyed him.
he has s very strong sense of smell and smells can annoy him - and he reacts to it going in and in about it
the more I’ve been with him the more I notice the little things.
if he gets home & im in the middle of something, he gets irate if I can’t immediately seitchbehat im doing and get into his agenda
He teases me and jokes when it’s on his terms, but if I do something similar and he’s not in the mood he gets really angry with me.
theres then no way to apologise or calm him down - he just goes off for hours & cant see anything from my point of view.
hes never able to say sorry it seems to acknowledge that the things he says to me in an argument are hurtful to me - because in his mind I’m in the wrong
now this may just sound like he’s a difficult person or just a bad boyfriend, but I think there’s more to it than that. I work with children with asd & autism so I’m not completely lacking in knowledge
Any advice or ideas?!
Hello, there is an autism screening test that may give him an indication as to his being autistic or not. It is by no means definitive but it is where many people start their journey towards a diagnosis. Going on and on about a complaint isn’t something I recognise, but we are all different. All the best, Graham.
Yes, he may well have ASD. Possibly OCD as well judging by the plates... but he could also just be a bad boyfriend.