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Can you be diagnosed without "classical" obsessions & routines?

I'm done with Christmas Cards

As you can see I'm still chewing over my recent evaluation.

Where my assessor seemed to be digging a lot and struggling to find evidence was in the domain of obsessions and routines.

I do have routines, and I get stressed if anyone threatens them, but how severe is it? I don't know. No meltdowns, but I'm a lot happier if I'm left alone with my original plans - which would generally be go to work & come home at the same time each day, have pretty much the same thing for lunch, and come home to my wife and dogs *only* until the next day. Holidays from work ideally means more time at home for me - no travelling.

I do have obsessions, but they aren't for train numbers or a particular sort of aircraft, or a specific South-African toad or whatever but instead have been pretty intense hobbies that I can achieve a flow state in. They have changed over the years.

I'm worried that the DX I get in about 5 weeks will just say I'm a lonely geek with no friends.

Thoughts?

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  • I think it's hard to turn the lens on yourself on this - stuff that seems normal to you might get classed as an obsession by others.

    I'm seeing a psychologist at the moment with a view to a possible diagnosis...

    's list ticked so many boxes for me:

    I fill the dishwasher the 'correct' way. - OMG! My wife gets so mad at me when I re-pack it the 'right' way!!!

    I eat my food in the right order. - packet of M&Ms... sort by colour then consume in ascending order of how many there are

    I wear the same type of clothes every say. - despite my workplace having a casual dress code I wear charcoal trousers and a short-sleeved white shirt & tie every day, except for my self-allowed 'casual Friday'

    I am compelled to do the right thing. - YES!

    I get 'fixated' on things, sometimes for only a short while, and once that goes I'm 'done' with whatever it was

    I think you could replace 'classical' with 'obvious'... I suspect for low-level/high-functioning types (apologies if I'm using the wrong terms) the 'obsessions' probably simply look like 'quirks'

  • in reply to Original Prankster

    There's probably many, many more ways that we do things differently to NTs.

    Here is our cup drawer - guess which side are my cups......

  • in reply to Plastic

    Respect to you that you can leave the right side 'wrong'!

    I once re-organised someone else's cutlery drawer 'cos they had three sets of cutlery with different handle colours grouped by colour... to me grouping by knife/fork/spoon made more sense as it was easier to get a 'set' of a single colour that way...

    I also compulsively re-arranged a display of sunglasses so they were ordered by frame and then lens colour

  • in reply to Original Prankster
    Original Prankster said:
    Respect to you that you can leave the right side 'wrong'!

    I have learned that I can only control the things I can control.  The rest of the world has their own crazy, chaotic, mental, ridiculous, WRONG way of doing things.  I can only lead by example and hope they figure it out on their own.

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