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Anyone here been diagnosed as *not* autistic?

I'm done with Christmas Cards

Hi, having lived with the assumption that I'm autistic for about 15 months and found that assumption *really* helpful, I'm now trying to prepare for all possible outcomes of my recent evaluation.

If you've been for an evaluation and given a "no", what was it like for you?

Thanks

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  • I can totally relate - I'm seeing a clinical psychologist with a view o a diagnosis - though that's not the 'focus', what I really want is to 'get better'.

    I flip between desperately needing to know and it not being an issue...

    If I get an ASD diagnosis it'll explain a lot and make it easier for other people to 'cut me some slack', but on the other hand it'll mean I'm 'broken' and some things will always be hard...

    If I'm NOT diagnosed with ASD then I guess it means I'm just kind of a shitty person with no 'excuse' for my unacceptable behaviour, BUT it should mean I can get better with effort 'cos there's nothing actually 'wrong' with me?

    GAH!

    The comment about 'not being autistic enough' to be diagnosed as such by the NT community made me think of this quote I heard once from a mixed-race person relating to how different communities treated them:

    "White people's attitude is 'It doesn't matter how pale your skin is, to us you're still black' and black people's attitude is 'It doesn't matter how pale your skin is, to us you're still black'..."

    I think it's kind of the same with ASD - to other atypicals you're part of the tribe no matter how 'mild' your symptoms are or how 'high functioning' you are but for NTs, unless you're acting like Rain Man or other media-driven stereotypes you can't be 'on the spectrum'...

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  • I can totally relate - I'm seeing a clinical psychologist with a view o a diagnosis - though that's not the 'focus', what I really want is to 'get better'.

    I flip between desperately needing to know and it not being an issue...

    If I get an ASD diagnosis it'll explain a lot and make it easier for other people to 'cut me some slack', but on the other hand it'll mean I'm 'broken' and some things will always be hard...

    If I'm NOT diagnosed with ASD then I guess it means I'm just kind of a shitty person with no 'excuse' for my unacceptable behaviour, BUT it should mean I can get better with effort 'cos there's nothing actually 'wrong' with me?

    GAH!

    The comment about 'not being autistic enough' to be diagnosed as such by the NT community made me think of this quote I heard once from a mixed-race person relating to how different communities treated them:

    "White people's attitude is 'It doesn't matter how pale your skin is, to us you're still black' and black people's attitude is 'It doesn't matter how pale your skin is, to us you're still black'..."

    I think it's kind of the same with ASD - to other atypicals you're part of the tribe no matter how 'mild' your symptoms are or how 'high functioning' you are but for NTs, unless you're acting like Rain Man or other media-driven stereotypes you can't be 'on the spectrum'...

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