I have a very unhappy other half who has requested that I go to the doctors today to get some medication to make sure that I don't "ruin Christmas" (I had a panic attack/meltdown at the weekend).
Can anyone recommend anything that will help?
thank you
Ellie
Would the "very unhappy other half" be willing to do his share, sit down and talk it through with you and jointly come up with a plan for Christmas? Might he care to drill down into what exactly leads to such "ruin" and consider his own role in the situation? Maybe in terms of helping to manage what it is that's likely to lead to such a panic or, should it arise, what might help or minimise the effects?
Also "ruining Christmas" seems like a very catastrophising/blaming/distancing stance that to my mind has no place in either a loving relationship or a cosy winter celebration that's supposed to involve a spirit of goodwill. Maybe he needs to go to the GP to ask for some CBT support with this line of thinking?
I have spent the last 18 months trying to explain the aspie thing and my limitations. I even have my first referral assessment in three months time so that at least is being taken seriously by outsider agencies.
Deaf ears I’m afraid. He was in hospital for four months in the summer and he couldn’t see that I struggled with that either :(
i feel more machine than human
Report. Can’t stay at a refuge. Been advised to find a B&B.
Hence the meltdown at the weekend. Walking on eggshells, performance anxiety. Not being able to judge what his mod will be. I am usually mute and passive and get shot down if I get pissy!
i have asked for a day pass so I can leave the house, go and see friends or have a choice in what I do. I have been permitted this but warned that there is no “get out of jail free card”.
Do you have any idea what the potential consequences of being perceived to have "ruined Christmas" are?
Even if there was some possible anti-anxiety drug available, I'd fear that might not be a great idea because even if the anxiety was reduced, I can't imagine feeling like you were walking on eggshells feeling would be conducive to a happy environment anyway?
Sorry for snapping.
I care a great deal for Ellie, having read many of her posts she tells of difficulties but also tries to hide the true extent, actually telling people what a god awful mess your in is extremely difficult.
Being seen as the careing sort, knowledgeable, funny and quick to cheer others up can mask what lies beneath.
I do apologise as I have been here as long as she has, you most likely have read some of her replies on other posts, always quick to interject humour. Witty. Very intelligent.
The list goes on and she won’t thank me for saying all this.
But the ability to help oneself is something as autistics we struggle with.
It causes so much worry and often leads to thoughts of why bother, what’s it all worth.
Yes we can all make judgements based on facts, it is be able to just do it and know it won’t just get worse that holds some of us back.
thank you Blank,, it really does help when things are so difficult to get the head around.
Much love to you.
Thank you for posting. There are a few here that have been through challenging relationships and got out.
I’m posting for advice and reassurance as this is a big and dangerous place I’m in at present and it’s navigatibg it the right way
x
It's okay. Doesn't matter. I've been there or else wouldn't speak.
No decision is worse than making any decision. Threats of violence can be proven and you can do things with that.
But it's just fine.
Wishing you and everyone the best of luck.
please don’t judge her in such a way.
This sadly is for real. Being autistic isn’t an easy life.
Many come here talking If suicide, I myself have given it much thought. And yet I have a steady job, a home surely if I wasn’t happy I could just walk away?
It really is that simple.
please don’t judge her in such a way.
This sadly is for real. Being autistic isn’t an easy life.
Many come here talking If suicide, I myself have given it much thought. And yet I have a steady job, a home surely if I wasn’t happy I could just walk away?
It really is that simple.
