Medication that can mitigate autism and anxiety

Would the "very unhappy other half" be willing to do his share, sit down and talk it through with you and jointly come up with a plan for Christmas?  Might he care to drill down into what exactly leads to such "ruin" and consider his own role in the situation?  Maybe in terms of helping to manage what it is that's likely to lead to such a panic or, should it arise, what might help or minimise the effects? 

Also "ruining Christmas" seems like a very catastrophising/blaming/distancing stance that to my mind has no place in either a loving relationship or a cosy winter celebration that's supposed to involve a spirit of goodwill.  Maybe he needs to go to the GP to ask for some CBT support with this line of thinking?       

I have spent the last 18 months trying to explain the aspie thing and my limitations. I even have my first referral assessment in three months time so that at least is being taken seriously by outsider agencies.

Deaf ears I’m afraid. He was in hospital for four months in the summer and he couldn’t see that I struggled with that either :( 

i feel more machine than human 

However I’m very high functioning in other areas and get through, do what’s required. He just wants me mended without any hassle to him.

i have big decisions to make and I need a clear head to see them through 

What do you want to do?

Report. Can’t stay at a refuge. Been advised to find a B&B. 

Options?

Hence the meltdown at the weekend. Walking on eggshells, performance anxiety. Not being able to judge what his mod will be. I am usually mute and passive and get shot down if I get pissy!

i have asked for a day pass so I can leave the house, go and see friends or have a choice in what I do. I have been permitted this but warned that there is no “get out of jail free card”. 

Hence the meltdown at the weekend. Walking on eggshells, performance anxiety. Not being able to judge what his mod will be. I am usually mute and passive and get shot down if I get pissy!

i have asked for a day pass so I can leave the house, go and see friends or have a choice in what I do. I have been permitted this but warned that there is no “get out of jail free card”. 

What do you want to do?

Report. Can’t stay at a refuge. Been advised to find a B&B. 

Options?