False Promises and Lies

Neurotypicals have a very low say/do ratio - they promise a lot to everyone to make themselves feel good but continually fail to deliver. Get used to it. It's normal for all of them. They live this way being useless to each other and it doesn't seem to bother them. They don't even register it as lying.

ASD people tend to be a bit more methodical and precise about these details.

This is one of the major incompatibilities that I have when dealing with NTs. I had a manager that was so bad that my ability to talk to him was reduced almost to F*** OFF.

Luckily, I worked on my own most of the time so didn't have to deal with them.

Plastic said:

This is one of the major incompatibilities that I have when dealing with NTs. I had a manager that was so bad that my ability to talk to him was reduced almost to F*** OFF.

I find that as people reveal themselves to just be liars or bullsh*tting, my respect for them goes down the pan.  I have had this with previous bosses whose management style and competence has been questionable.  One incident resulted in a boss threatening to fight me outside of the work venue because I picked holes in his methods and then eventually his arguments towards me.  He was just a bully and a stupid one at that.

If someone said they will do something, then I expect them to do it in a timely manner and to a good standard.  Anything less and I will pull them up on it.  It may come across as antagonising, but it would just be easier if people only stated what they are actually going to do to save everyone's time and over-inflated expectations.

My temper is much calmer nowadays, but lying and bullying/manipulation still make my blood boil and I will challenge those responsible.

This brings back bad memories from my last job.  The managers openly accused me of black & white thinking.  Yet they were worse themselves.  They were unable to cope with my slightly unusual behaviour.  And were just looking for faults in my performance.  

I wasn't worse than other staff.  And a blind eye was turned to their faults.  But with me,. Any slight problem was treated as a serious situation and threats of dismissal.

I have had that happen to me a few times one manufacturing place i worked had a engineering manager who was very large and a physical bully who had no qualifications for the job he got purely through intimidation i wanted to return some tool i had signed out of the foremans office who had finished early i caught said bully exiting his office and asked him if i could sign the tool back into foremans office he replied with a blunt "no" when i questioned why he just looked at me in a smirk and said sarcastically "tough" so i called him a C&%T he came right into my face poked one his fat little fingers in my chest and said "call me that again and i will pound the Sh&t out of you"  to which i said "Do it C&%T and i will be straight up to Human resources and get you fired then arrested for assault and sued all in that order" he just looked at me in a confused and bewildered way and stomped off i don't think anyone had ever stood up to him like that especially a skinny 16yr old but then ive always spoke my mind regardless to who it was and especially bullies

I have had that happen to me a few times one manufacturing place i worked had a engineering manager who was very large and a physical bully who had no qualifications for the job he got purely through intimidation i wanted to return some tool i had signed out of the foremans office who had finished early i caught said bully exiting his office and asked him if i could sign the tool back into foremans office he replied with a blunt "no" when i questioned why he just looked at me in a smirk and said sarcastically "tough" so i called him a C&%T he came right into my face poked one his fat little fingers in my chest and said "call me that again and i will pound the Sh&t out of you"  to which i said "Do it C&%T and i will be straight up to Human resources and get you fired then arrested for assault and sued all in that order" he just looked at me in a confused and bewildered way and stomped off i don't think anyone had ever stood up to him like that especially a skinny 16yr old but then ive always spoke my mind regardless to who it was and especially bullies